fellas. yes i know i made a big mistake. My wife is a wonderful good woman and I;m very ashamed at what i did. But, I'm 44 now and life is just boring to me anymore. Jamie (the other one ) makes me feel young and alive again. I salute saxman and frenchy for speakin their minds because they're right!
I posted here because I know you asreholes will give it to me straight. And I respect that. Sorry if I offended anyone, but I need a guys point of view on this one. I work with about 50 women and can't really talk to them about it.
Uptown...
The proper way to deal with this kind of situation (speaking with perfect 20/20 hindsight) is to separate BEFORE "ordering another item from the menu". Failing that, it is never a good idea to give a "side girl" a telephone number that your WIFE has access to. So to recap:
Don't mess around while still attached. and if you are unable/unwilling to do the first don't give your home telephone number to the girl you're messing around with.
Some advice... If you still love your wife, try to work things out with her. You might find out that wanting is not as rewarding in the long term as is having. Communicate with her about your feelings (tough to do sometimes, but at least you will both know what the other is thinking and feeling). Obviously your current state of boredom is a recent development... Why? What is different from when you first met the woman you are now married to? Remember those feelings and try to work together to recapture them. A good relationship is a joint effort and you will reap the rewards of one proportionate to the amount of effort that you give to making it work.
Good luck and I hope things work out for you.
