I sense some frustration on your part. There is help available.
This game is many different things to many different people. It would be a mistake on your part to think that your view of the game is the only correct view.
The Head On shot is a guns solution shot. Head On shots are easily made and just as easily avoidable.
Talk with Shuffler about avoiding the Head On shot. He is one of the best angles players in the game and rarely ever gets taken out with a Head On shot. AKAK as well. Great angles player.
It is very rare that I get taken out in a HO, I avoid them and will even give up angles to avoid them. The issue I have is the players that are coming in today, for the most part look for the easy path, and it is bring the general game play down in to the slums.
Fighting, or "combat" (Murdr should be along with the quote from HT about the game soon

) is the reason for the game, it is what the game is all about. There are many avenues to that combat, but its still about combat. If you don't want to fight in a GV go play "iron Fist", if you don't want to fight in a plane, go play Microsofts flight sim. By going for the HO, you are giving up the fight and putting it all into chance, by not learning to fight and maneuver your plane your cheating yourself.
I've flown with Shuf and AKAK, as well as against them, they are ALWAYS good fights, and that's what its all about. You fight them you better bring your "A" game, and a HO ain't going to save you.
HO's are for losers, its a lame, skilless maneuver. Take some time to learn a real maneuver or two and challenge yourself to a fight with someone else who knows a maneuver or two. Other wise you might as well go play some stupid box game, I hear some even have AI that shoot back, so be carefull