...The aircraft are designed for BVR, but are having so many 'add-ons' that it seems their purpose is to dogfight, which, as I stated, isn't going to really happen in todays world unless you get 2 REALLY unlucky pilots whos missiles just won't launch. 
The odds are slim of a dogfight, and I see the need to prepare, but why not prepare for something we have the ability to do? Avoid the dogfight and get them before they can even see us.
While this is somewhat true, dogfights still happen. Air combat is usually not two formations of 4 starting 50 miles from each other, HO at 20kft, over empty land. Some scenarios makes BVR almost impossible, before ranges are closed to IR missiles. For example, the Israel-Syrian border is about 70 km (about 50 miles) long. In the even of war, along this front there will be more than a few tens of aircrafts (fighters, attackers, photo, recon, helis, drones) possibly reaching over 100. Add to this a large amount of chaff floating in the air, electronic warfare and just accidental interference from so many radiation sources (add ground troops equipment) all crammed into this narrow volume and you can understand why a 50 miles missile will be of little use. The IAF puts the emphasis on short range IR missiles, with extreme maneuverability and launch envelope.
However, the advancing missile technology that require very little maneuvering from the launching platform and very fast information and control networks will allow drones to carry air to air missiles effectively. If most of your force is made of drones, even in the case of friendly fire, you just lost some equipment. The side that will rely on human pilots will suffer the casualties. The time and cost of training a new pilots will be much longer and expensive than producing a new drone - even including the extra few that were shot down by friendly fire.
We are not there just yet, but very close.