I'll point out the obvious - the reason it shouldn't work the same as your opponent shooting you (where you see the bullets appear to pass behind you but take damage, because on his FE he nailed you) is that it TAKES SKILL to shoot a plane out of the air, and is what the game is about - and any moron can buzz around the arena trying to fly into an enemy aircraft until he smacks into one.
Demanding a similar set of rules - and allowing skilless rejects to take down an aircraft solely by ramming it - would destroy the sim. Pretty soon, the players would be frustrated and leave - after a few months, all that would be left is an ever increasing number of dweeby griefers.
HTC and co ain't stupid (TG!).
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