A general question for you guys.

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lol wow you guys have had the life

the wife and I have 6 kids if I raised them the way my "dad" raised me, the state would have taken them from me, seriously, my dad tried to raise me like a man, my mom was non existent, left me at a neighbors house while I was around 9 months old never came back for me, my "dad" was extremely violent and would not allow me to lose a fight, I had to do EXACTLY as he said, and be home EXACTLY when he said to be,while I was out I could do whatever just had to be home when he said, The only time I did not get into trouble for being late, I was stuck in a chicks closet waiting for her mom to leave I was 12.(I told him the truth of why I was late, and I swear he had a smile going down stairs)

my kids though are so far from the life that I led, I am strict about what they watch and where they go, our oldest daughter who is 15 is just now being allowed to go out without us,  I was running the streets by time I was 6.  Music I don't care what they listen to, LOL they almost all like rap, I cant stand the stuff.
I discipline my kids when they need it, spanking wise, I use the walking age to decide when to discipline, once they start walking that's when the spankings Begin, when the wife or I say NO and they still do it first there is a warning, if they do it again then comes the spanking, it seems to have worked well, for I have 6 very well behaved kids, they are far from "angels" and fight a lot amongst them selves but, they are good kids.  I am extremly proud of them. they and My wife are the reasons I live and strive in this very f'ed up world. here are some pics-anything to show em off   they are my world
       the Wife and I and our 15 yr old daughter

      our three oldest, from right to left-Katrinna-Ruby_Anastasia

     our next oldest Khanan

     our two youngest-Izzabella-Elijah

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Good lookin' family, Ink. Don't know why you let 'em hang out with the guy in the first pic, though. 

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I dont ever remember my parents telling me I couldnt watch anything.

Hell (no pun intended) i remember going to the drive in with my parents when they went to see  "Rosemary's Baby" when that first came out in 1968...I was then 7 years old and I think I stayed awake for the whole thing.

And no I didnt turn into a devil worshiper because of it LOL

I dont recall not letting my kids see too much,cept pron LOL

Never been a big believer of protecting my kids from the ugliness of the world. I'd rather them to be able to recognize it for what it is and be hardened to it.

Thing is. It really doesnt matter if you let your kids watch something or not. What matters is what you teach them. If you can teach them common sense and to recognize a gem as a gem, and a turd as a turd. To teach them how they should be as well as how much of the rest of the world really is. And how to be strong enough to survive in that world. your kids will do ok.

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Pretty much my pre-teenage years my mother and step-father were pretty strict in what we were and were not allowed to do. Punishments came in many forms including the old hairbrush across whatever they could make contact with while aiming for the bottom, the belt which came with the wonder thup thup thup thup noise as it was leaving the belt loops, and also the more sudle ones like groundings.

After I turned 13 many things changed and I am not talking about the usual puberty type things either. My step-father left us and my mother took all of us and moved us around alot. Her being a single mother and having to go to work at several different times forced her to have to trust me and my 3 siblings alone. She always said though that she never worried because she knew that we were good kids and very trust worthy. She became a great deal more laxed in her discipline after this, to the point where my younger siblings did not undergo the same discipline that I did. It was through this that I found out that you do not need the coporal punishment that I had to get a child to listen. Most of the trouble I gave my mom was over my grades and I deserved every bit of grief she gave me over it too.

This lead to a great deal of trust during my later teens (16 until graduation) I had pretty much no rules to follow as long as I did not disturb the other children. This lead to me coming home at 3am on school nights and not coming home at all on the weekend. Now we had never really discussed the whole don't break any laws because we both knew that was not really an issue but the one thing that always stood was grades but by this time the most that I would get for bad grades was a sit and talk because her philosphy then was "you can only hurt yourself and by now you should be able to make your own decision".


Now I am 36 years old have a 15 year old step daughter which is turning out great (I can't take much credit for that since she does not live here) and a 10 year old daughter which is also growing up very well. I won't say that I am raising her the same way I was raised since I don't and never really had a reason to use spanking as means of punsihment on her but the strictness during her younger years still stands. However I think it will be the letting go and having to trust her to take care of herself in the next 3 years that will be tough and not really sure if I will be able to do or not.

As far as music and television, I don't remember my mom ever telling me I could not watch or listen to anything. We do regulate things a little bit more with my daughter than my mom did with us, but that is not because I think she was wrong for doing it that way but because the line is pushed a bit more now a days than it was back when I was younger and really the only thing that we are a little particular about are the "love/nudity" scenes since even these are pushed a little far on national television and she already asks about things that I think that a 10 year old should not be ready to hear the answers to.

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my grandparents had no problems with me watching things like ultraman, speed racer, the monkees, the munsters etc.

 i had to sneak away to my room when i finally was a llowed a tv in there to watch monty python, and benny hill.

LMAO Ultraman!  I had completely forgotten about that show. Used to watch it all the time

Check it out again and you wont be able to beleive just how cheesy that show was. No wonder my father hated it.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UNb7o6x7hEU

[Tupac]

WHATEVER, ILL DO WHAT I WANT!