That sounds, neurotic. I'm sorry, but that makes you sound like a control freak- I could see if you were living in some sort of horrid situation with drugs being found everywhere and all that jazz. It doesn't seem to be that way though; it seems to me that you are warping these kids by having them live in a police state. If you force yourself into every facet of their existence, then they will have issues later on.
Here's a good example:
Parent invades every inch of kid's life->
Kid sees parent as overbearing/raider (as in raiding everything the child has to think about)->
Kid has three options->
1.)Accept it and move on with no problems
2.)Take offence and rebel
3.)See option 1 but with problems such as neuroticism, vicarious existence (goes to other control extreme), and does everything that you said no to
Anecdotally, the looming presence of a "big brother" watching everything you do is just creepy- where does it all end? If you fear not rifling through a MySpace or Facebook, a secret keylogger shouldn't be a stretch. Or perhaps a screen-capture bot that will constantly stream their browsing? Or how about a(some) camera(s) in their room to watch what they do in there? Heck, even a door shouldn't be allowed!
To conclude my point, all things in moderation- Privacy, just like Risk, is a binary function or a zero-sum game, both parties can benefit from doing things in degrees.
-Penguin
lol obviously you are oblivious to the fact that in the very small town I live in, there are 16 and 17 year old heroin junkies, kids in 7th grade getting pregnant, ecstasy is rampant, drugs are a huge problem.
I lived on the streets in a much bigger town/city when I was a very young, I started out at around 9 yrs old sleeping on the streets,I grew up stealing so I could eat, did 10 years locked up before I was 22, so I know a bit about the rough life, and what happens to teens who have no parent control.
so don't try to tell me I am wrong, I have some of the most respectable and well behaved kids around, hell we had a bus driver tell my wife,"you have the best kids I ever had on my bus" I know exactly what I am doing when it comes to my kids.
I don't lie to them about anything, and if there is something to mature for them to know, I tell them when they are older I will explain, you would be surprised at how amazing my kids are.
btw I have 6... a 16 yr old Girl, a 13 yr old girl, a 12 yr old girl, 11 yr old boy, 7 yr old girl,4 yr old boy.
yes all from the same woman, My wife of 17 years.