Relationships with human beings have three primary stages.
Lust
Romantic Love
Mutual Respect and Bonding
Lust is no different than a cocaine addiction. During the workup to the event, in the event and after the event your body is producing it's own addictive brand of hormones and opiates. Thats why you spend an inordinate amount of time thinking about it, creating oportunities to do it and not thinking twice when it happens. Both sexs do this equaly and are just as randy as the other. Ever noticed how happy people are when they get some? Then how cranky they start getting the longer away from getting it they become? Withdrawal is a horrible thing to watch.
Romantic Love is like Obsesive Compulsive Disorder. You have problems thinking or talking about anything but the object of your compulsion\desire. If both of you are not obsesivly fixated on the other together, well it gets very messy and the rejcted one will go through a textbook cold turky withdrawal from his or hers own opiates. But if you do get lucky, most of your freinds and family eventualy want to shoot both of you or get you married to shut you up. Ever watch a teenager fall in love, then a month later when he or she gets dumped have the equivalent of a cold turkey meth addict in the house? Love being the most powerful of human emotions is true. It's the most addictive self medication habit you cannot kick by mother natures design to purpetuate the species. Oh and yes during Romantic Love you do beleive your partner is pefict why? Reduced levels of seritonin production which causes the Obsesive Compulsive behavior and scews your sense of reality towards your partner. That Oh So Dreamy feeling........
Mutual Respect and Bonding usualy comes with age, marraige, often with children, when the two of you have bonded as freinds and partners. Your hormones have long since tapered off and each of you has either bonded via years of repititious habit or hopefully by years of nurturing mutual respect. This is the only solace in this self drug addiction to look forward to short of living alone. You finaly kick your own hormonal addiction by virtue of age. This is also around the time men have mid-life crisis and women file for divorce on the grounds "he dosent make me happy anymore".<---can't get her fix anymore....
And now to make this even more convoluted. You can be at the same time in a Mutualy Repectful relationship with one person while being in a meth addict LUST for a second person while being in obsesive compulsive Romantic Love with a third. The stuff of divorces, paternity suites and impeachment proceedings. So after a few years you ever wonder why you have to make the decision that you actualy like the person you used to Lust, then Love and now just get up every morning with?
Testosteron<---Boy hormone.
Estrogen<---Girl hormone.
Adrenalin<---when you first chase the target you become stressed and produce adrenalin. Part of why you get clumsy, stutter, swet like a horse and your mouth goes dry.
DOPAMINE<---very addictive, better than cocaine and you produce it. It's why everyone goes back for more sex. It's highly addictive because its pure. God dosen't step on it before you get it.
Seratonin<---you supress this and become fixated on your partner to a fault. Puts rose colored lenses in your eyes. Lots of baby talk and strange cooing noises to drive parents and freinds nuts.
Oxytocin<---makes you addicted to cuddeling and being touched. Only reason you don't just hop up and leave the room afterwards. Feels good. Although makes some women twice as likely to become depressed.
Vasopressin<----if it's going to last this is produced post cloitus to help with long term pair bonding. Hopefully.......Lawyers know this is not a sure thing.
And here we thought it we were so smart. Sex and Love is just another drug addiction...don't Bogart that victoria secrets cataloge.
