This is going to be received badly... Please note I am purely commenting on the flying side of things, NOT any social interations or politics people are talking about here.
After I got over the fact that he used a different style of flying to me, I learned to very much enjoy fighting 'that flat turn speed chart shade guy' whenever I realised I was fighting him. I learned the one thing he dislikes the most is people who make excuses when he kills them with BFMs. So just from my experiences, being respectfull to someone who flies different from me was all it took to make fighting them fun.
As to all the mental patient stuff and winding people up on comms I wont comment, I don't even know who I'm fighting half the time with shades anyhow. I am NOT sanctioning any of that behaviour just saying I've learned to enjoy all different styles of fighting over the years.
PS: stang sucks!
