Thoughts? Deployment

[trax1]

If you're going to marry her anyhow, consider going to a justice of the peace and get a quickie marriage done.  Get her enrolled on base, registered as a dependent, etc.  Get a living trust through the base legal office. 

Have a regular wedding when you get back.

Yeah thats what I was gonna suggest, just go to the court house before you deploy to just make it legal, when you get back you can do the whole family big ceremony thing at the church, I mean if your going to marry her anyways at least make sure she gets the full benefits that come with being the spouse before you deploy, this way if god forbid something does happen to you then you know she'll be taken care of.

[Masherbrum]

What eagl said.

[68ZooM]

If you're going to marry her anyhow, consider going to a justice of the peace and get a quickie marriage done.  Get her enrolled on base, registered as a dependent, etc.  Get a living trust through the base legal office. 

Have a regular wedding when you get back.

went through a ordeal with my girlfriends daughter, Her and Ryan were supposed to get married when he returned, sadly he returned in a casket and they only thing she was left with was his life insurance, she had no other rights to him according to the laws, i ride with the Patiot Guard Riders ( 25 rides in 3 years) so we worked with both families and the military to get her as much help as we could, if i could turn back time i would of made sure they got married first,  Marry her Brother before ya go      Semper Fidelis

[Selino631]

I am waving my dwell time  and trying to go back, it is what I do, who I am and it is my duty. Marine, do not worry about what others think, it is what you think is the important thing. In the end, no matter what you decide to do, this Vet salutes you

thats some good stuff man, 

btw do u have orders yet for when u get up here? we just got back from NTC last night.

[Shuffler]

You signed up and a lot of time and money went into training you. I'm sure others in your group depend on you to pull your weight.

The girl that you say is so special is not married yet.




Only you can make that decision.

[F22RaptorDude]

I say go for it, do our country proud! 

[SmokinLoon]

Do as your heart tells you.  Just keep your wits about you and remember that you are mortal and simply just can "re-up from the SW runway" is you get shot down. 

Best of luck!   


 

[MarineUS]

Thanks guys. I put in my word today.

I am waving my dwell time  and trying to go back, it is what I do, who I am and it is my duty. Marine, do not worry about what others think, it is what you think is the important thing. In the end, no matter what you decide to do, this Vet salutes you

This will be the third deployment I've opted for, but I got passed up on the other two because they needed NCO's (I'm a Lance Corporal)m but now they're short on everything, especially E-3's.

Marine...sounds like you're a pfc...not an easy pay grade to try and support a family...regardless of your mos, all marines are grunts first...if your fiance is the only thing holding you back, put her down as beneficiary on your life insurance and make sure she has access to your bank account...set things up as if she was your wife...would be better/easier if you were married but...

going over there is going to be a life changing experience...especially if you see action...you may not be the same person when you get back...be sure she understands that and can handle it...be sure you can handle it.

the decision is solely yours to make...it's rare to be given a choice during war time...in my time we volunteered before they asked but this generation is different...whatever you decide, it has to be you and you alone to make the decision.


Semper Fi  

Part of the LCpl underground
Past due for Cpl - but the USMC has pretty much frozen promotions(funding).
She knows I can change, her family was military to the max. She's told me that no matter what happens that she'll be right here beside me.
As for being able to volunteer, it's because they're in short supply on a large scale.

Semper Fi brother  

If you're going to marry her anyhow, consider going to a justice of the peace and get a quickie marriage done.  Get her enrolled on base, registered as a dependent, etc.  Get a living trust through the base legal office.  

Have a regular wedding when you get back.

I'm thinking that's what we're going to end up doing. Never really been briefed on the whole marriage ordeal for the military but I'll go up my CoC and see what to do.

Do as your heart tells you.  Just keep your wits about you and remember that you are mortal and simply just can "re-up from the SW runway" is you get shot down.  

Best of luck!  


 

What do I do if they get a CAP then? Can't I just up a death star and roll at 'em over and over??



Thanks for the support again guys.
 

[JunkyII]

I'm kinda in a similar conflict. About 3 days ago I was contacted by West Point about the application I put in acouple months ago....problem is my deployment is quite soon. Either I go to west point or deploy....


I ain't no girl I'm deploying.

[MORAY37]

I'm kinda in a similar conflict. About 3 days ago I was contacted by West Point about the application I put in acouple months ago....problem is my deployment is quite soon. Either I go to west point or deploy....


I ain't no girl I'm deploying.

   That is just a serious headscratcher, sorry.  It's not like they are going to keep your appointment open there.  Girl or not, if you passed up an academy appointment, you need another psych exam.

[MarineUS]

^ Lol

You could always deploy in the future. Especially as an officer.

[JunkyII]

  That is just a serious headscratcher, sorry.  It's not like they are going to keep your appointment open there.  Girl or not, if you passed up an academy appointment, you need another psych exam.

complete sarcasm

My opinion on that is that all Officers should serve as enlisted before they get their commision so they know what the lowest level Soldiers go through.

[Tupac]

Stay safe MarineUS, or I'll come over there and kick your ass.

[Maverick]

You have some decisions to make. I got into this late and it sounds like you made one of them already. What I was going to do was ask you a question and there is no sarcasm intended, just one old soldier to a younger one. What did you join up for? Then make the decision about deploying on that basis.

The second issue is your fiance. How much do you love her? Do you want her recognized by the Military and have benefits? You know that won't happen as long as she is not married to you. She is just a girlfriend as far as as the military is concerned in that case. If you want to take care of her you need to decide something. Eagle and a couple others already hit the high points on that issue and you can have the fancy shindig when you get back.

You are in the adult world now and decisions can be tough to make. You DO have to make them though and not making a decision is still a decision. How much do you want to do for her? You were almost a Dad there. Not being married put her and the child in a legal limbo that would be a huge hassle for them to deal with had you not come back from deployment if you were not married.

You know what your choices are. Talk them over with her and decide. If you are still single when you are deployed, she is not a dependent to the military.

[Maverick]

complete sarcasm

My opinion on that is that all Officers should serve as enlisted before they get their commision so they know what the lowest level Soldiers go through.

A good Officer knows what his troops are doing anyhow. A good Officer also knows he is not there to make friends with his troops but he does have to earn their respect. Just because a person is an Officer does not mean they don't get dirty and do work either.

The academy won't hold an appointment for you. If they extend it they expect you to make a decision and stand by it. Choose. If you choose to pass the up the academy you DO need a psych exam.