Dad Vs Facebook

[Shuffler]

I'm not referring to his property, I'm thinking about the harm he may have done to his kid... What if the kid is so demeaned, so embarrassed, that she swallows a bottle of whatever her dad should be taking?

On the flip side he could just simply let her get her way, so he does not upset her, and let her develope into another worthless human being.

[Shamus]

The guy is a drama queen.

shamus

[Big Rat]

The guys crazy, who would use their good ammo on a laptop ,  I normally shot my laptops with the cheap stuff   I have to go check to see if my German Shepard is on facebook.....nope . Another reason German Shepards are better then kids

 
BigRat

[Rich52]

Almost all kids go thru their AH time during their teens, "and that dont stand for Aces High". I found that taking my kids X-box and notebook works better then any smack Ive ever given him. Within a few days he's sticking his nose into the man cave trying to make small talk, eventually the apology comes and the promise not to be an AH again. He's a good kid, no drugs, no real trouble, but teenagers are teenagers. Things is with sons you can toss them into the street and let em sleep in the woods for a few days, if their old enough. With daughters you just cant do that.

Nowdays kids call 911 if the old man gives em a well deserved shot. Hahahaha, Im not kidding. The entire world has gone upside down, we got this freaking Govt. involvment in everything.

Daughters are a whole different problem then sons. I dont have one but have friends that have had world class drama with em.

[F22RaptorDude]

I'm not going to predict her future but I don't believe that public humiliation is the best parenting technique to use on a teenager. 

I have my suspicions that this is a bit though. 

I've raised a kid and he turned out pretty good despite my inadequacies.

F22.. good on you for taking the responsibility on yourself.  Keep it up or I'll personally put you through a wall

It was either clean up my act or go to jail, I prefer being innocent minded these days

[Dichotomy]

ya keep it that way.. you know the old line abut '*' before jail and 'O' after?   Better not to find out the hard way

[F22RaptorDude]

I've heard don't drop the soap 

[Jayhawk]

I don't know how you all can decide that he is a good or bad parent from a few minutes of video.  The world is not black and white.

I'm all for what this guy did to the laptop, and I certainly don't think it makes him a violent parent.  Someone mentioned it earlier, it's about consistency, and we have no way of knowing from one instance his consistency.

I do have to disagree with the public humiliation though.  I'm not going to make any judgments though, I'm not a parent, and it's kind of obvious who else in this thread isn't a parent.

[B-17]

I don't know how you all can decide that he is a good or bad parent from a few minutes of video.  The world is not black and white.

Not how good/bad a parent he is, but how good/bad his discipline technique in this instance was.

[Penguin]

Not only did he overreact, I'd wager he's got issues, too.  Here's why:

If you're a parent, you ought to feel like you're in control (i.e., I don't mean draconian discipline, but that your words carry weight) of your household.  Therefore, discipline, while uncomfortable, should be akin to mowing the lawn in that both are things that 'just need to get done'.  In addition, you should be aware of your own strength- that of your body, mind, and words- they are all greater than your child's.  So even if your kid tries to hurt you, you should not go nuts and pound them into the pavement with extreme prejudice- if there isn't anything abnormal (the kid is a genius, mini-Arnie, sociopath, pyschopath) defeating them should not be a problem.  This brings me to my point about the laptop; the girl humiliated her father in front of perhaps 10-20 people, tops (only so many could have known him and read the conversations).  The correct course of action would have been to take her Facebook away while you figure out what the problem was, and how to resolve it.  However, by posting that video and humiliating her in front of everyone who knows her (potentially on the order of 1,000 kids) he shows just how insecure he is.

So you see, the real problem was not whether the punishment was reasonable or not, but that the father is insecure about his position in the family.  That's a real problem- feeling like you have to pound your kids into the pavement if they step up to you doesn't solve anything.  Someone who has true power knows it, and exercises restraint, rather than get anxious and overreact when a weaker individual challenges them.  Yes, I sound like Steve Erwin meets Dr. Phil, but it's the truth.

-Penguin

[Dichotomy]

No Peng you've pretty much nailed it.

Squid always knew who made the decisions around here and, while he was a really easy child to raise, I can see where I could have screwed up (and did) and allowed him to take charge.

This REEKS of a break down in communication in the family unit and that, as a father, disgusts me. 

It should not have come to this and I reiterate my position that if the only tool you have as a father is attempting to humiliate your teenager in front of his or her peers then, at some point, you've failed and you need to recognize that and deal with it as a man and not denigrate to outlandish actions of a child.   He just taught, in my mind, his daughter that outlandish actions might bring about the results she desires. 

Frankly I hope they both get help if this video is for real.  Honestly I think it's a publicity scam.  If it isn't dad, mom, and step mom, need some parenting classes. 

[rpm]

My Dad made me beat the phone off the wall with a baseball bat because I made a long distance call. This guy just got his point across in a manner she would completely grasp.

[Flench]

  Honestly I think it's a publicity scam.   

I bet money it was .

[dedalos]

You jsut contradicted yourself pretty horribley.  He gave her the laptop = fail.  He permanentley took it away from her = fail.

How many kids you raise to adulthood already, Ded?

Two girls, but I am really confused on how I contradicted my self there.  All I said was that if the story is true then what ever he has been doing so far is a fail.  If it was not, he would not have to do what he was doing.  The guy is an idiot in so many ways there is not enough BBS space to write about it.  So, after you explain how I contradict my self, please explain to me what his next step is going to be if this does not work.  It is like telling your kid that she/he is grounded for ever.  OK, what comes next then?  They are already grounded for ever so lets start shooting at their things?    Don;t forget, they are kids.  They don;t think the same way adults do.

[dedalos]

You know... parents gave their kids worse punishments 40 years ago without the kids immediately becoming drug addicted, strippers,or porn stars. Now you even ground a kid and use LOUD WORDS to do it and people get offended.
Good grief...

Huh?  Is that why there are no drug users, porn stars and strippers 40 years latter?  Sorry, but stupid argument gets stupid answer