There's no need for force, just nonchalantly send an 18-wheeler and a couple of SUV's full of security guards and shovels. Dig the bodies up, put them in the trailer, and drive them to the nearest airbase that will have a plane with sufficient cargo capacity. There, no bloodshed, no violence, just solving the problem like civilized people. The families get their bodies, and we don't spend oodles of cash fighting another war that ironically creates more war graves.
As for that huge cemetery, such decoration misrepresents how soldiers often die. They don't die thinking about how much they're giving to their country, they die screaming (on the inside or the outside) for mom and dad and to go back home. Ask any vet (at least those that I know) and they'll all say the same thing: "Those men weren't heroes, they were just doing their jobs". That's not a sweet nothing, that's the truth. If we make them out to be heroes, then we'll forget just how terrible that job is for the soldiers and those whom they fight around (their families, civilians, etc.,). A more appropriate burial ground would be something like Arlington, but with the cause of death printed right below the name. Then, we might get it through our heads that war is bad, and that we should only do it if we'd be even more screwed if we don't.
Fighting a war is not a matter of national pride, it's a matter of survival. Not only survival for the country you inhabit, but for the whole world. For instance, WWI was a classic example of huge, antagonistic alliances creating a World War out of a tiny provincial battle. If Germany, Russia, Britain, and France had kept their heads and ignored their alliances, we'd all be better off today. WWII on the other hand, was a matter of survival. Yes, the thought of losing power in Europe certainly frightened every government, but there was also the matter of a dictator achieving world domination that certainly made it a much more important, but nonetheless costly, war to fight. Indeed, war is a means to an end, not an end in itself.
-Penguin