I had a new way of viewing this question in very simple terms. They may seem obvious but they do get down to why these threads pop up all the time.
1. Most people think when they collide with a plane , the other plane should be damaged just like in the real world.
2. Most people believe when they do not collide with a plane that their plane should not be damaged just like in the real world.
Until a person understand the inherent problems with communication lag , the person can not understand why those 2 desires are in conflict. This is not an easy idea to rap your head around ,thinking in multiple time displaced realities is not something that comes easy to most people.
For almost all of us, we believe that desire #2 out ways desire #1.
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