Don't know how to break this to you. I am the worst pilot in my squadron. Unfortunately I fly so bad that when I drink I can only get better.
You have one thing most players don't - access to some extremely good sticks in the game to learn from, your learning curve is cut quite a bit narrow from it.
All you gotta do is ask for some help, and it will be thrown at ya =)
speaking which my DA is getting so bad I lost 5 rounds in a random picked aircraft, time to start getting whipped like a redheaded step child and learn the basics again.
Some things I learned: Winning every DA match does nothing to improve SA/Main arena - you have to do a balancing act between the two - you want to learn the ropes of an aircraft and manage to stay alive.
DA however does teach you to learn when to be aggressive or not, overly aggressive gets you killed, simply work on SA and gunnery is my motto for now.
I preached before and will preach again - fly 2 aircraft for an entire tour, then rotate them out - try to learn everything you can on each aircraft with a sub (for example few tours ago I did the C.205 and P-38J)
Different aircraft have their own attributes, learning each one down to the core improves your chances to survive. Some reason switching out every tour simply keeps my game up, but that's Just me - instead of being stellar in one aircraft, I rather be mediocre in everything.