I definitely have no resource problems. High FPS and 8Gb RAM leaves lots of spare. I don't even use the highest resolution textures.
The connection issues seem to happen mostly on EU evening time when I often log in. It then gradually improves after 23:00 local. I was running trace routes and they did not seem that bad: 200-220 ms ping, very rare packet losses, no big jumps in ping times between hops except for the cross-Atlantic jump. No difference between the LWA and the other HTC servers.
The funny thing is that after logging in, I get the first update for a few players and then I receive no new player - but the ones that were sent keep updating. I see them flying around from the tower, I see their dots on dar move. I hear vox if someone speaks in the tower. The variance in net status window is normal and keeps updating. Yet, no more players appear in the roster and in the air, I cannot move to the hangar or spawn and lose connection after about a minute.
From the 7 point list above I basically eliminated everything except "7". Since by now I realized this behavior has typical hours I tend to blame the net, though I do not know where is the problem. I'll post the traceroute next time this happens.