Randy, I suggest you look into Special Events, such as FSO. It runs three Fridays a month at 11pm est, and focuses on squadron v. squadron rather than every man for himself. The only requirement is that you find a squad beforehand (ie you can't hop in the arena and ask for a spot).
It is much more realistic than the MA, with objectives for each side, orders prepared by assigned squadrons, limited icon range (generally 3K instead of 6K), historic and pretty even plane sets, etc. Also, you only get 1 life, so it really helps with SA and making sure you are trying your best to stay alive. The dogfights are generally pretty fun and take a lot of concentration, since you never know when an enemy is right on your tail (3K of range goes quick). There have been a few times where I have found myself alone fighting 3 guys, praying some friendlies show up to help me out. There are many squadrons that fly in it and I'm sure some would be happy to give you a seat if you'd like to try it out.