My condolences for your loss CZCH64.
When your heart hurts and your head feels lost, remember the things about her that made you smile..remove the later years of suffer and sorrow. keep the memory of joy, and she will always be with you.
To me (i hope this helps) death, or someones passing was like watching a ship, with someone i love on it, i know that ship will sail and it will get smaller and smaller as it go's over the horizon, and as much as it hurt me to see those people going, as much as i know i may not see them again in this life..i know the people on that ship, will be arriving on another shore, they will be greeted and loved, seeing friends and family they haven't seen in a life time. That ship may be leaving me, but its headed home.
She's home.