Picking is just a term people made up for explaining away their lack of SA or their target fixation.
98.4% of the time when I die, I blame myself in some way, shape, or form.
A couple weeks ago, I was having a wonderful little running fight with a couple of the 80th guys. I was mostly (completely?) getting my arse handed to me, but in the spirit of the prevailing wisdom of this BBS I was seeking out these guys who have mastered the 38. I was looking for the honorable fight, even if I was outnumbered most of the time. There was an interloper or two throughout this series of fights, but I successfully avoided most of them. Then... BAM. Tower. I see a familiar name. Now I know he wasn't one of the 38's... where the hell did he come from? How did I not see him?

OMG, I'm such an idiot.

A PM to the pilot confirmed that he had come from outside of the fight. Instead of hateful, "You picked me you f*%#@^g tool", I instead blamed my poor SA for not knowing he was there. Had I got vis on him before he killed me, I doubt I would have felt much different.
Differences in worldview, I suppose.