Picking is just a term people made up for explaining away their lack of SA or their target fixation. 
98.4% of the time when I die, I blame myself in some way, shape, or form.
A couple weeks ago, I was having a wonderful little running fight with a couple of the 80th guys.  I was mostly (completely?) getting my arse handed to me, but in the spirit of the prevailing wisdom of this BBS I was seeking out these guys who have mastered the 38.  I was looking for the honorable fight, even if I was outnumbered most of the time.  There was an interloper or two throughout this series of fights, but I successfully avoided most of them.  Then... BAM.  Tower.  I see a familiar name.  Now I know he wasn't one of the 38's... where the hell did he come from?  How did I not see him?   

  OMG, I'm such an idiot.   

  A PM to the pilot confirmed that he had come from outside of the fight.  Instead of hateful, "You picked me you f*%#@^g tool", I instead blamed my poor SA for not knowing he was there.  Had I got vis on him before he killed me, I doubt I would have felt much different.  
Differences in worldview, I suppose.