some squad are very rigid and detailed. some are not. try them out and if you dont like them, quit. the idea is to fly together, not necessarily and the same plane. however if you join a very cohesive group, now you get to use your strengths and weakness's and really do some damage.
once upon a time, jg54 would fly 3X110's or P38's with bombs, 2 guys in fighters and 1 or 2 c47's. working together we could kill the ack, kill the vehicle hangers and take the base in less then 5 minutes and were almost unstoppable.
the point is it all depends on what you're looking for. find your fun and your fun group of people that are like-minded. its all about having fun!