Thanks for owning up.
In one way it is stupid though ultimately this is not "the internet." This is a community of people that interface via technology. Integrity matters. Character is what you do when no one is watching.
This generation of Americans has really taken to situational ethics where ultimately nothing matters. Young ladies giving birth to unwanted babies and trying to flush them down the toilet or throw them in the garbage can. Young men shooting and killing people just to see what it is like.
Integrity matters. Always. Everywhere. Especially when no one is watching. Anyone who says it is anything less is part of the problem.
You are doing the right thing to simply note that you sense you activity was less than honorable and you will act accordingly. 
Boo
Very well put, it seems to be a surprise to most people that I am one of the people that have a code of ethics in game.
-Don't hold a grudge, it's just a game
-Don't shoot a landing plane.
-Don't disrespect others.
I don't even approve of vulching a field, however if it is in the interest of capturing a base and serves a tactical purpose, then I will vulch. As for rule number two, I have actually called off squaddies who were trying to shoot down a landing plane. It fells like a cheap kill to me, and it lends itself to cowardice.
I completely agree that this is a community and not a game. It's one of the main reasons I love playing Aces High. Most of the players know each other, and are willing to help each other in some way. When you go out today and you buy a game that is sold to three million people with mics, the first thing you hear is complete disrespect and hateful racial slurs being thrown back and forth. It makes my ears bleed.
While I agree with you, Gaming the game is a far cry from giving birth to unwanted babies and killing people in real life. You guys cant be taking this game that seriously can you?
Most, if not all of us take the game seriously to an extent. If you throw your computer at the wall because you were vulched by the same guy three times, you are taking it too seriously. Other wise, it is up to the player to decide when they need to just step away. I have done this several times, it's not worth getting your blood pressure up.
As for the OP, it takes a real pair of stones to publicly admit when you've done something wrong. I see two suitable options:
-Take the punishment that HTC staff deems fit
-Blow all the perks you farmed, by crashing perked planes into the distant country side away from any possible proxies.