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Offline GScholz

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What do you do when a girl hits you?
« on: January 30, 2014, 07:41:59 AM »
"Joseph Kerr wasn’t prepared when his wife became abusive–and the systems in place to help weren’t ready either."




http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/brand-what-do-you-do-when-a-girl-hits-you/


Horrible that a man's service to his country is used against him, and how the justice system is weighted against men in abuse cases like this.
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Re: What do you do when a girl hits you?
« Reply #1 on: January 30, 2014, 07:45:51 AM »
Try to calm her down, have some rough make up sex, then take her on a fishing trip and report man overboard on ch16  :devil :angel:

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Re: What do you do when a girl hits you?
« Reply #2 on: January 30, 2014, 08:05:49 AM »
"Joseph Kerr wasn’t prepared when his wife became abusive–and the systems in place to help weren’t ready either."

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http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/brand-what-do-you-do-when-a-girl-hits-you/


Horrible that a man's service to his country is used against him, and how the justice system is weighted against men in abuse cases like this.

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Re: What do you do when a girl hits you?
« Reply #3 on: January 30, 2014, 11:27:51 AM »
I have scene abusive people first hand, both male and female. What seems to be a factor in the aggressors is caffeine, alcohol, nicotine, fast food diet, or some combination.

From my experiences caffeine seems to be the one which pushes people over the edge very easily.

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Re: What do you do when a girl hits you?
« Reply #4 on: January 30, 2014, 11:55:23 AM »
What seems to be a factor in the aggressors is caffeine, alcohol, nicotine, fast food diet, or some combination.

Huh? A Big Mac made me beat my wife?
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Re: What do you do when a girl hits you?
« Reply #5 on: January 30, 2014, 12:32:13 PM »
Huh? A Big Mac made me beat my wife?

It wasn't the Big Mac...it was the Big Gulp of Coke.  :lol

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Re: What do you do when a girl hits you?
« Reply #6 on: January 30, 2014, 12:41:12 PM »
It wasn't the Big Mac...it was the Big Gulp of DIET Coke.  :lol
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Re: What do you do when a girl hits you?
« Reply #7 on: January 30, 2014, 01:10:52 PM »
So that woman wants to be tough eh? I suggest that she be sent to prison where there'll be plenty of opportunity.

Diet might be a contributing factor, but this? There was something wrong with her from the start.
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Re: What do you do when a girl hits you?
« Reply #8 on: January 30, 2014, 03:19:06 PM »
Horrible situation, that.  I have a buddy who was abused a long time ago.  Put simply, the result would have been profoundly different had he been attacked the same way by a man.

He did the same thing though, took it and didn't make a move to defend himself.  Fortunately no kids involved so it was relatively simple for him to get out of the situation.

Being in that guy's shoes has got to be one of the most frustrating, enraging situations on earth though.

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Re: What do you do when a girl hits you?
« Reply #9 on: January 30, 2014, 08:07:24 PM »
Bill Burr thinks we should ask The View for the answer

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I don't know if they'd take the question up though, it doesn't fit their format.

Seriously though, in this guy's case, pressing charges for assault and kidnapping would be a start, at the very least.
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Re: What do you do when a girl hits you?
« Reply #10 on: January 30, 2014, 10:33:48 PM »
I don't know if they'd take the question up though, it doesn't fit their format.

Seriously though, in this guy's case, pressing charges for assault and kidnapping would be a start, at the very least.

And doesn't generally get very far. :noid
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Re: What do you do when a girl hits you?
« Reply #11 on: January 30, 2014, 11:13:37 PM »
In this case it got him arrested and barred from seeing his kids.
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Re: What do you do when a girl hits you?
« Reply #12 on: January 30, 2014, 11:26:40 PM »
 I think it has a lot more to do with the way things are in the media. Men are portayed as simple bumblers. Violence against men is glorified in movies and TV. In real life it is cheered. If you try to involve the police you are in for even more woes.

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Re: What do you do when a girl hits you?
« Reply #13 on: January 30, 2014, 11:52:12 PM »
In this case it got him arrested and barred from seeing his kids.

Released on own recognisance, = no conviction?

His only other options were a) hit her back and b) not do anything, so sucks as it may, he did the right thing. If the $$$ were in a joint account, he's SOL on that one. He also did the right thing by going to a lawyer before she left with the kids - for the court's purposes, nothing happens unless it happens with a lawyer.

I can *cough* guarantee you that it's not always the guy whom the police lead away.
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Re: What do you do when a girl hits you?
« Reply #14 on: January 31, 2014, 01:10:44 AM »
Pretty awful to read, I feel very sorry for him.  He's right too, that's pretty much how L/E deals with it.  

When I left my wife back in 2004, I was warned by a police officer that I shot with to transfer all my firearms out of the home prior to giving her the news that I had already rented a new place to live, and was leaving her the house.  Here in Canada, keeping your gun license is in your wife or cohabiting partners hands, she has to actually sign your application to "allow" you to have them, and is quite often the first thing the wife's divorce lawyer advises - go after his guns and license, just say you feel threatened and scared, and the police will come and seize them, and take him away!  That's literally the word for word advice they give, and what the lawyer told my soon to be X.  I told her I was going, then a couple days went by.

Luckily, when she called the government 1 800 number they have specifically for this purpose (yes, that isn't a joke), I just let her go on with them on the phone, explaining that although I'd never once been violent around her, raised a hand, my voice, anything of the sort, me having guns scared her and she felt threatened and thought I might "use" them, after being coached through it in a similar manner to what this guy went through.  What a joke.  When the police arrived about 15 minutes later, I handed them my friends card, who was a Sargent in another division, and said "I transferred every single weapon and every round of ammunition, and even my pocket knives to his custody 2 weeks ago".  I was lucky, having prior warning, I was able to turn it around on my lying X, and it looked very bad on her, and helped in the later dealings.  If I hadn't known that was how it usually went, I would have lost everything, 50$k worth of stuff, my job, which was in that business in one way shape or form, as well as all the other legal hassles.

Never having had kids, I can't imagine how awful it must be to have them used against you in a split, or go through what the guy in this article has, but I have some small idea how it feels to be betrayed and lied about by your wife, who is nice as pie one day, then turns into something quite different when life takes a turn she doesn't want or like, and lies to the authorities, especially based on legal council, and it's considered "ok" behavior by some groups to do so, so long as the end result works out in the woman's favor.

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