I wasn't saying I agree with what I was originally taught. I sought out trainers and many good pilots (some who have posted in this thread) who were willing to help me..thank you!
It just struck me how different the philosophies are. My uber friends are frustrated because they are able to land 10 or 12 kills per hour but can't find them, and my non-uber friends aren't Ch 200 whiners, they just fly off when they meet an uber squad and find a fight elsewhere.