Just so I'm clear;
The forces generated by the control surface are such that the wing would physically deform so as to keep the aileron at "neutral" relative to the flight vector? Wouldn't forces acting on the entire wing be greater than those acting on just the ailerons, resulting in "heavy controls", thereby preventing this from happening?
It just seems odd to me that even though the forces are sufficient to significantly deform the shape of the wing, the ailerons are apparently unaffected by the forces.
An aileron rolls the aircraft by effectively changing the camber of the wing. This, in turn, creates more lift on the wing where the aileron is deflected downward and less lift on the wing where the aileron is deflected upward.
At very, very high speed on aircraft that have low wing loading (i.e. they have wings that produce lots of lift) and low torsional wing stiffness, the aerodynamic forces can cause the wing to bend/warp. This warping causes the wing, overall, to deflect the relative wind opposite the direction it normally would, causing a roll in the oppositely-expected direction. For example, an aircraft usually rolls towards the wing with the upward-deflected aileron, as that wing is producing less lift. However, at high enough speeds, that upward-deflected aileron can generate enough drag that it "twists" the wing down, therefore causing the wing to deflect the relative wind downward. This causes the aircraft to roll away from that wing, instead of towards it.