Such a Sap

[Saxman]

Tomorrow I get to watch The One get married to another guy. There's not a bottle of Jack big enough to wash it all away; I've already tried tonight.

But I can't get out of it. I said I'd go so, I'm going, because that's the kind of person I am. Just gotta put on my big boy pants and be the better person.

P. T. Barnum said there's a sucker born every minute. I, apparently, am one of them.

 

[Saxman]

I need a few more head-wall emotiwhatsists.

 

[Scherf]

Sorry to hear, man.

Don't begrudge yourself what you are - you can either accept it or deny it, latter never works.


Nor, incidentally do Jack and Johnny Red, in the long term, fwiw.

[ROC]

Hey Saxman, this is a tough one to chime in on.  You know better than anyone else what is the right thing to do.

The One.  The one wants you there?  The One knows your going to suffer through it?

That one, isn't the one.   Go do something else.   I don't know a damned thing about what the entire situation is.  But I do know this. You owe no one anything.  You said you'd go so you feel obligated.   You are not obligated to a thing.  You put that on yourself.  Do you want to go?  That's a Yes or No that you need to honestly answer to your self.  That's all you owe anyone.  It's ok to tell someone to go pound sand and simply walk away. 

If she really was "The One", you wouldn't be having this conversation with anyone.   

Ya, Ya, I know, I'm a cruel, cold and heartless bastard.  It's served me well, and my relationships are more honest now because of it.

[Spikes]

I took a couple of shots for ya...but I agree with ROC. It obviously isn't the one. Everything happens for a reason.

[FLOOB]

So you're punishing yourself for doing something you know was wrong, that is not declining the invitation. You agreed to be friend-zoned, that never works. Maybe this way you'll learn.

[MrRiplEy[H]]

Hey Saxman, this is a tough one to chime in on.  You know better than anyone else what is the right thing to do.

The One.  The one wants you there?  The One knows your going to suffer through it?

That one, isn't the one.   Go do something else.   I don't know a damned thing about what the entire situation is.  But I do know this. You owe no one anything.  You said you'd go so you feel obligated.   You are not obligated to a thing.  You put that on yourself.  Do you want to go?  That's a Yes or No that you need to honestly answer to your self.  That's all you owe anyone.  It's ok to tell someone to go pound sand and simply walk away. 

If she really was "The One", you wouldn't be having this conversation with anyone.   

Ya, Ya, I know, I'm a cruel, cold and heartless bastard.  It's served me well, and my relationships are more honest now because of it.

Sometimes 'the one' is 'the old friend' which makes you obligated to join the party. The real question is does she know that her friend actually was in love or not.

[RotBaron]

Is she going to stop the wedding with your absence?...

Get out now; else you'll be seeing her babies on facebook in a couple years and their vacations in Hawaii or Tahiti. Leave her in the dust and don't look back; what good will come of it?

Go find the one.

[danny76]

^^^^^^ This!

Is the only answer!

[Copprhed]

I've been through the "I'll do anything not to lose her completely" thing. IT DOES NOT WORK! You end up miserable and USED. There is ONLY ONE reason that she would want you to stick around, and it's totally selfish on her part. She isn't concerned with your best interests, only her own. Turn around walk away and NEVER speak to her again. Anything else will leave you in misery.

[pipz]

    To all that and what the others have said! I wouldn't go. Hell I woulda been gone long ago. Play AH instead or go out and have some fun. "The one" is an illusion. There are "many". Of course it is your call Saxman.

She doesn't play with your garbage bins by chance does she? ...forget that.................

And here I thought your biggest mistake was flying Corsairs................

Chin up old man! Pip pip! Over the top a wot!

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[Bizman]

The hardest way to tell how much you care is to let her have her will. If that means separate lives, so be it. Trying to tie another person to you against her true will will only bring misery sooner or later. Cry some, die some, learn some, live on and let others do the same. Find another rib of yours and try again with better luck. I know by experience. 

[Wmaker]

  Saxman!

You won't hear any advice from me...

It sucks.

This can be all crap at times. I'll take two and more for you as well...

[Saxman]

Saxman!

You won't hear any advice from me...

It sucks.

This can be all crap at times. I'll take two and more for you as well...

Thanks for getting it, WM. Sometimes you just need to make a whiskey-fueled rant of frustration.

[JimmyC]

Don't know how young you are..
But glad I did not stick with 'the one'..
When it all went Pete tong..
Found a much better one a few years later..
Move on bro..
Sink a few
Bang a few
Relax and live life