Back to the OP: some folk just need to get a thicker skin. If that'd been me on the losing end in that particular scenario (and it usually is) I'd have congratulated the superior pilot, then asked for some tips/ lessons instead of packing up my toys and going home. Even if I though I was being unfairly taken advantage of. Whels never took undue advantage of me, but he used to whip my butt mercilessly and regularly because I kept seeking him out for more. I learned a lot that way, and he got some good points/ perks because he was usually flying a dog and I was always flying the hottest thing I could afford, perk-wise.
If you do come across someone that really owns you...and you keep going back for more...that is like on-the-job-training....it works wonders and is how I learned when I first started years ago...
I think it was last year sometime Huklebry and I went into a custom arena...after I talked a ton of crap to him...and just dueling eachother for a couple of hours made a world of difference in my flying...and we walked away friends...
Cmex and I have almost been in the same squad since I started in '05...there was a time around '09 or 2010 that we weren't...I would consistently run into him...go poof...and go back for more...getting better every time....
If you don't have the mental capability to take a bad situation and turn it into a learning experience....it doesn't matter if it's a game or if it's a real life situation...you have serious problems...
Taking your ball and going home because you can't overcome adversity is a problem...and it is becoming more widespread as time goes by...
I watch people rage quit this game almost every time I play...I got to play for the first time since frame 3 of March's FSO Sunday night for about 5 hours and saw people rage quitting on the regular...

Like I said...if you can't handle adversity...you don't stand a chance...in this game or in real life....

I guess I should add that if your a retired old man...then the handling real life adversity doesn't effect you as you have either already succeeded or failed at whatever it was that you done with your life...
