In the heat of battle its very easy to make a, what I consider, small mistake regarding all those you consider being brain dead not to notice. That's unfortunate, I thought you might have listed inaccuracies in il2BoS engine management and failures. Do you have anything worth reading at your finger tips?
IL-2's engine management is, if anything, more gamey than AH's. It is a prime example of creating an unrealistic gamey system to make a game seem more realistic.
Real engine management isn't nearly as constant as IL-2 makes it out to be.
From a P-38 pilot, paraphrased: "In combat we'd push the throttles all the way forward and leave them there. No WWII airplane generated enough power to make lower power settings worth anything in combat."
There are also multiple examples of Allied aircraft being run at full WEP for durations well beyond the handbook's stated limits with no ill effects to the engine. In testing engines were run at WEP settings for even longer.
Realistic engine management would not be as engaging as in IL-2 because it wasn't a constant thing.