Hey sloehand,
Just some thoughts--I agree planes are tough to see. I'm playing off a 55" TV, 4 feet from me....they are tough to see. 1920 x 1080 res for me, even though the TV is 4k capable because I don't see medium range dots at 4k rez.
Part of the problem for me is icon masking the enemy plane partially (and if I turn them down, I get weenie anemic looking icons which are difficult to read), lack of closure cues outside of 1000 (can we get the 1.1, 1.2., 1.3, 1.4 updates? I'm not sure of the quantification for the + and - to display, but seems with neither showing I sometimes close, and they sometimes open.), and zooming in really decreases SA and as you pointed out "amplifies" your nose bounce visually (I think looking through a high power scope...without you don't seem to be moving that much, but once you look in, you realize you are all over).
Not sure what you size monitor your fly on, but a 32" 1080p TV is pretty cheap nowadays and makes a huge difference. Only reason I have bigger is my TV is in my "man cave" and just "happens" to be over my desk:) Amazing how that works eh!
Cheers!
Dobs