Now here's a topic from left field

My other choice on where to ask this was the Chrysler Minivan Forum and you guys lost
Anyone out there have a coconut full of knowledge regarding insulating attics? I'm in a house, built by my Father in the 1950s, with 1950's insulation which is only 3" or so and I've acquired many rolls of 6" rolls of insulation that has a vapor barrier on one side. I'd like tips on the best way to install the rolls and maybe also answer some of my questions regaring the installation. The house is in the northeast just outside Buffalo, New York so we could use more to put it mildly. I should probably add it was originally a one story and when the family grew Dad added a second story early in the 1960s I guess it would have been. Both stories need insulating.
The present state of the attic is: as mentioned only original insulation estimated to be 3"s and I assume it has the usual paper vapor barrier on the bottom out of sight. It's from the 1950s so I'm concerned about asbestos. One site said if there were shiny flakes in the fiberglass I need to be careful. Is there a test kit out there or a way to find out if it has asbestos? I know I have to get the ventilation right too regarding the soffett vents, hope that's the right term, making sure they are clear for airflow. When the roof was re-shingled the installer did make ridge vents so that part is covered.
How do I deal with the new insulation and the paper on the one side. I know it's not good to have an overlapping vapor barrier so do I remove it, VERY messy, or possibly perforate it so it's not a barrier? If I have to remove old asbestos insulation I guess I'd still need that on though, even though this new barrier wouldn't get under the ceiling joists [ terminology?].
Do I just lay it parrallel or perpendicular to original stuff / joists? If I do this what about the 3" space between layer of new insulatoin and original stuff?
I do want to use the new rolls opposed to blowing in that messy stuff and another issue is there is some stuff stored up there now. I'd really like to keep that up there and had the idea of filling in the 3" space up to top of joist with insulation and buying some styro-foam sheet insulation. Maybe cover that with thin plywood and put the crap on top of that.
There any sense in putting the insulation on the bottom of the roof in between the roof rafters [ terminology? ]?