The one who invades carries the responsibility. How ever they claim they never invaded. I read Russian news and it is just unbelievable, what kind of BS they vomit out. Totally different history, lies and twisted truths. Propaganda against its European neighbors started more than a decade ago. Little by little, at same time censoring other than government controlled media.
Even tombstones and some memorials in Karelia have been changed. Used to be for fallen soldiers of both sides, now they are for those Russians, which Finnish nazis gassed and burned in their concentration camps. In camps, which even Soviets didn't find after WW2...
My country of origin has 1340 km border with Russia. 1939-1940, 1941-1944 in war with Russia. Lost some territories but did not get puppet government. Joined NATO recently just because or Ruski invasion of Ukraine.
I've been in Russia over 30 times, work related visits, twice as a tourist. Nobody not been there and talked with locals cannot get their mindset. They have never lived in free country. From tsar dictatorship to commie one, blink of light during Gorbatschow and Jeltsin periods and then to Putain regime.
I happen to know a guy, former Stasi officer, who has worked with Putain, when he was in Eastern Germany as a KGB officer. According to him, tsar Putain is megalomaniac psychopath. Intelligent, emotionless and blinded by his own excellency. Already then, during Cold War era. And this all was told to me years ago. Years before 24 February 2022.
Whataboutism does not solve things. Yes but and how about it. But, may everyone became blessed with their own believes.