Wow! And I thought I was on a bad streak. The most important thing is to take care of you! I'll keep you in my prayers.
My ex-wife used my kids as weapons as well. Eventually they figured it out. Once they had to deal with her, they even said if it's this bad for us what was it like for dad.
In October of 2021 I was trying to do a young man's job and got sick, then sicker. I ended up in the hospital with pneumonia and almost died. Five weeks after I was out of the hospital I told my doctor I don't feel like my old self. He said it takes a while to recover from a near death experience.
Then my best friend of 20 years passed away February 4, 2022 from breast cancer. Which is why my hair is so long these days. I'm hoping to donate it in her name. Then my kid's mom put herself in Hospice because she didn't want to go to dialysis anymore. I begged and pleaded with her not to do this. I cried and whined. She even had our grand kids on her bed. You couldn't reach her. I prayed every day several times for some answer and then I finally prayed for strength. Even with all the hell she put me through I loved her, she was the only one I ever loved. If someone told me this story I would say they were crazy and yet here I am. She died December 22, 2022. Her funeral was on the 28th. Then I was distraught and sick. I came down with COVID. After that, the worst cold ever and then a stomach virus which lingered on for over a month. At one point I was so down I quit my job. Work gave me such a wonderful break. They said take another week off and then make the decision. I was so thankful.
I'm doing much better these days but still miss my wife.
Please take care of yourself. I hope the operation goes well. Pray often and give thanks too.