Yup, most films you see are slow motion, not all though.
One thing is of course, as pointed out by most others in here, experience. We have far more flight hours then most of the R/L pilots did.
We have laser range icons, big red letters that says "here I am, shoot me please". Flew with them off in a snapshot once, both sides surviving pilots agreed to turning them off and so we did, WHEEEE, TONS more fun and you saw people miss alot more.
Don't know how good IL2 (yeah yeah comparing it again) gunnery is realism wise but when I fly it, it FEELS EXTREMELY realistic and much more real life like then AH's gunnery and dammage modell.