No, I understand the basic concepts, like above. Most of that is common sense, I think.
I answered some of my own questions by grabbing a calculater and a bunch of my books.
Some wingloading numbers: (The formula I found was simply weight / wing area)
109E4: Weight= 5,875 Lb
Wing area= 174.05 Sq Ft
Wingloading= 33.75 Lb/Sq Ft
Spit I: (This is out of Spitfire: The History, which kind of confused me by listing the wingloading for the 1a as being 36 Lb/Sq Ft)
Weight= 6,200 (3 Blade prop)
Wing Area= 242 Sq Ft
Wing Loading= 25.62 Lb/Sq Ft (which seems more normal)
Spit F IX : (see above)
Weight= 7,295.5 Lb
Wing Area= 242 Sq Ft
Wingloading= 30.15 Lb/Sq Ft (which could explain why the Spit IX still out turns the 109E4)
A6M5: (This is from Zero: Combat and Development etc. ad nauseum)
Weight= 5,920 Lb
Wing Area= 229.59 Sq Ft
Wingloading= 25.8 Lb/Sq Ft
I also have Americas Hundred Thousand, which is a very good book. It lists a section in the back that compares the turning ability of the planes included. The list has the FM-2 (with a wingloading of 28.something, so it should turn good

), the P-61, P-63, P-51, P-47, P-38, F6F, and F4U-1d.
The turning order goes like this (according to the book without flaps, which brings up another question) Fm-2, P-63,P-61,F6F,P-51,P-38,P-47, and lastly, the F4U-1d. Now, the wingloading of the F4U-1d and the F6F are practically the same (both 37.something). The book mentions something about a 'lift co-efficient' of the wing as playing a large part in turning radius as well as wingloading. How does one figure out this lift co-effecient of a wing (book doesn't explain that)? The book says the lift coeffecient of the F4U's wing really sucks (paraphrasing lol) which is why it still can't turn even though it has pretty good wing-loading.
Also, how big a part do flaps play in all of this? I understand that they increase the surface area of the wing (although I don't understand HOW... they are already ON the back of the wing) thus increasing lift- but how much do they help?
Also.. for another wingloading question. The Zero book I have includes a section on flight tests between the Zero and various U.S. planes. It has a very detailed part comparing the FM-2 and the A6M-5. According to the book, the A6M5 could only gain 1 circle in 10 on the FM-2. The wingloading difference is about 3 Lb/Sq Ft between both the FM-2/A6M5 and the 109E4/Spit IX- but I think the Spitfire gains more than 1 circle in 10 (at least a good Spitfire pilot, I've outturned bad ones). Is the Spits wing very good at creating lift (A high lift-coefficient I guess), and is the 109s wing very bad?