I don't have a problem getting hit for one or the other. But not both, especially when my kite is undamaged (all 3 times I discoed).
To be honest, between the 2, I'd gladly shut up about my lost 100perks for discoes in a 262 if it would leave my K/D alone. I'd rather lose points than have a disco count as anything in the K/D because it goes even farther to making K/D a worthless statistic.
Let'em alt+F4 all they want to. That's recorded as a death/crash. HT did that long, long, long ago cause people were hitting alt+f4 when they got thier tulips handed to'em.