KDF,
There is a bug that was reported about blowing up when you go to the field. Maybe that was the problem with getting vulched. I had that problem one night, is switched aircraft, then switched back and had no problem.
As far as the gang bang goes, I totaly agree with you. I have seen my own countrymen either swoop in and steal a kill, or just fly by when you are in trouble. You can't let it bother you, and it helps to fly with a squad who will look out for each other.
When I see a one on one, I stay high over the fight and only come in if my countryman gets into trouble. But then I started in AW DOS, and things were much different then

It is also best to look for areas with even fights, you see less gang banging. If there are few enemys, go someplace else, or jump on the pile.
Gunner <CAF>