I don't generally criticize other people's AH style, but I think I understand the problem.
Some players like to furball til the puke. They don't care about score, or whether they RTB. Heck, they don't WANT to waste time landing. They just want to dive into the fur and see how many kills they can get before they die.
Other players like to cruise the stratosphere looking for an unaware, isolated, or disadvantaged target. They want to get their kill then get out of danger. Get as many kills as possible without giving up the advantage, then return to base, land safely, and count their points.
The problem is when the cruiser finds a furballer on his way to the fur. The furballer just wants to get to the action. The cruiser wants to get a kill with the least amount of risk. The cruiser evaluates the situation, and makes his B&Z attack(s). He either gets the kill, or bugs out before he loses the advantage. Either way, it is more annoying than fun for the furballer, and he may be <cough> critical of the cruiser's refusal to "fight fair".
Of course, there are many players whose styles fall between the examples above. Some furballers like to land their kills. Some cruisers will push their attacks beyond safety. I think the problem arises when the extreme styles meet.
Or...something.

In the end, everyone gets to define their own fun -- and live with the consequences.
popeye