Instead of auto-refuling/rearming at the pads why not add something that requires more action.
- make it possible for the pilot to climb out of and into an airplane
- at the little boxes near the rearm pads add the possiblity to pick up the fuel hose and some ammunitation (not both at once though), and even bombs on little trolleys either at hangars or the ammo depots.
- let the player pick them up, and carry them to the plane

And... always spawn planes in hangars, with enough fuel and ammo for combat, everything else has to be picked up manually. That way jabo operation takes a lot more time than field defence, slowing down pork-and-auger. But that's more for ah2-classic.
And I guess it has nothing to do with downed pilot rescue, oops.