Boroda: Again - we think in different conditions. When I say "ask for directions" I mean simply asking someone in the street how can I get somewhere. Right. When asking directions, I am asking a stranger for a favor who is not obligated to help me. I am infringing on his time/concentration. So I am expected to extend him/her all the curtesy and consideration I am capable of. I am expected to smile and say "please", "sir" and "thank you".
The mail or delivery service is different. They work for me. That does not mean I can be offensive or obstructive - and I am not, usually - but there is much more leeway for me in my dealings with them.
For instance I do not have to tell them "please" or "thank you" or write the address in the most convenient form for them (as long as it is reasonably legible) and they are
obligated to accomodate me. And they must smile and say "thank you" to me or I will have a legitimate complaint.
When I ask a gas station attendant for directions, I say "Excuse me sir, could you please tell me where XXX is." And he says "Sure buddy".
When I buy gas from the same guy, I could just say "Fill it up. Regular. Cash." and he must say with a smile "Yes, sir, Thank you, sir."
I am from Leningrad... In Moscow you'll get... Even in New York one can occasionally tell Moscow manners from most other places...
The times when a customer was mostly a nuisance are long gone. I sure hope so and glad to hear that. Contrary to what most people believe, civilisation starts not with the technological level or even the amount of capital/wealth, but with the adherence to contracts - fulfilling one's responcibilities completely. If that is present, the rest quickly follows.
Unfortunately the US of A seems to be developing the other way while the russians are re-discovering the benefits of civility.
Following your way of thinking: in USSR usage of machinery didn't make people loose their jobs, and didn't affect salaries. It was simply making life easier, just as it is usually supposed to do. Sure, making life easier for some at the expence of the others.
Can you expect my letter to be delivered in the US (for example) if I write an adress in a Russian way? Nope. They will not. I bet they would.
More to say: you have to be carefull and make special precautions, or they will confuse the reciever's adress to the sender's adress I see no way around that other than following local conventions. Of course when sending international mail I always put
"From:" and
"To:" just to be sure. I expect them to accomodate me but I am not going overboard with that.
Isn't it natural to write the reciever's adress above the sender's adress?! We all write from left to right, from top to bottom, we are not Chinese or Arab! I just stick a small pre-printed label in the top left corner.
So - all your rhethorics is useless. You write adress to help your mailman, while I write it to help mine. Didn't you just claim that my mailman would have easier time reading the other way around?
It's funny how you turn any difference between two cultures in a way like we are poor opressed Russians and everything is done in a special diabolic way to enslave our minds. Now you forgot the smiley.
I am not turning any difference into the culture war but I can often trace (correctly or not - that is another matter) a different ways the people think to the differences in cultures.
What's wrong with that? I criticise the "western" and american ways way more often than I criticise ex-soviet ways.
I am not saying that the strictly-mandated envelopes were the tool of the brain-washing by the oppressive regimes - communists or even Tsar's. But I do see some peoples' ready adherence to arbitrary rules as a result of conditioning.
Ex-soviets are very distinct in that respect - not just being conditioned to
readily and unquestioningly abide by arbitrary rules but often demanding others to do so on their private initiative.
Only in a russian bus could I get a lecture from a complete stranger (usually an older person) on the proper ways to dress, cut hair, (not) hold hands, etc. - even when the behavior did not involve noise or other inconvenience to others.
My wife visited recently and this custom is still there.
We were expected to behave and watch for others to behave. And expected to enjoy that power to tell people what to do and to elieve we had right to interfere. Pure and simple.
I am sure that such behavior was not particular to only soviet society. Most other rigid/oppressive ones had similar ways, including in America. It even seems on the rise here - Political Correctness, etc.
miko