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Title: That last 1.5 years
Post by: hitech on April 05, 2023, 09:56:32 AM
The last 1 1/2 years my personal life has been difficult, hence slow development.
The cliff note version is.
Fall of 2021 I filed for a divorce do to my wife trying to alienate the kids from me. She got primary custody at the temp order hearing. The alienation was so bad she was telling our 3 kids to be mean to me so I would give up. I can not describe how difficult it is to have your kids pretend to hate you.
April 2022 My mother passed.
Last August the custody evaluation was completed and recommended she have supervised visitation only. After which she requested a jury trial which delayed the divorce another 1 to 1.5 years. In October primary custody was given to me. Things improved very rapidly since I was given primary possession of my kids. They now act like my children again.
Early march I found out I have an ascending aortic aneurysm. Showed up on cat scan Feb 2021 when I had a sever case of covid, but no one told me about it. May 5 I will have open heart surgery where they replace the first 2 inches of my aorta.
The divorce put a lot of mental stress on me, and I could not focus on any game development since the beginning of the conflict in Augest 2021.
My apologizes for the lack of development, I hope to be back at it soon.
Dale
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: LCADolby on April 05, 2023, 10:03:12 AM
:salute
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Devil 505 on April 05, 2023, 10:07:39 AM
:salute
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: GasTeddy on April 05, 2023, 10:11:53 AM
:pray :salute
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: SIK1 on April 05, 2023, 10:13:46 AM
:salute
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: CptTrips on April 05, 2023, 10:17:14 AM
Sorry to hear about your mom. My Dad passed Aug of 21. It can shake you sense of order in the world when you lose a parent. That's support you've had your entire life.
And F*K marriage. You're "lucky?" that things turned out well for you. The guy almost always gets screwed today no matter how psycho the wife is. Too bad you can't just buy kids on Amazon. ;)
Good luck with your surgery.
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: nopoop on April 05, 2023, 10:17:44 AM
All the best Dale !
:salute
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Animl-AW on April 05, 2023, 10:17:59 AM
The last 1 1/2 years my personal life has been difficult, hence slow development.
The cliff note version is.
Fall of 2021 I filed for a divorce do to my wife trying to alienate the kids from me. She got primary custody at the temp order hearing. The alienation was so bad she was telling our 3 kids to be mean to me so I would give up. I can not describe how difficult it is to have your kids pretend to hate you.
April 2022 My mother passed.
Last August the custody evaluation was completed and recommended she have supervised visitation only. After which she requested a jury trial which delayed the divorce another 1 to 1.5 years. In October primary custody was given to me. Things improved very rapidly since I was given primary possession of my kids. They now act like my children again.
Early march I found out I have an ascending aortic aneurysm. Showed up on cat scan Feb 2021 when I had a sever case of covid, but no one told me about it. May 5 I will have open heart surgery where they replace the first 2 inches of my aorta.
The divorce put a lot of mental stress on me, and I could not focus on any game development since the beginning of the conflict in Augest 2021.
My apologizes for the lack of development, I hope to be back at it soon.
Dale
Dale, I know how it is very well. Lost both parents, wife, son, brother, and had health issues too. Prolly due to over-stressed. Hence my escape in 09, certainly wasn't because of the game. Sometimes, we just need time. I kinda sensed there was something going on,... it's just not like you.
We all love ya brother. I'm back around if ya need/want any help in my skillset.
Whether life or game,... peaks and valleys. You can survive more then you think. You've been tested.
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: oboe on April 05, 2023, 10:20:51 AM
Any one of those situations would be a lot for one person to deal with, and you've had them all on top of one another. Very sorry for your troubles, Dale.
We are all pulling for you and I know many prayers are being and will be sent on your behalf during your surgery and recovery. The game can wait; take care of yourself first.
:salute
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Animl-AW on April 05, 2023, 10:25:24 AM
If it's any consolation,.... doing things for the game was my therapy. Kept my mind off the negative. I'm sure there is a crowd of us more then willing to help ya. Thank you for the appearance,..a lot of exhales just happened.
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: whiteman on April 05, 2023, 10:26:11 AM
Best wishes! :salute
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Eagler on April 05, 2023, 10:26:30 AM
Dang Dale that sounds rough
Best of luck with your operation
:salute :pray
Eagler
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Puma44 on April 05, 2023, 10:50:05 AM
:salute Dale, sorry life has been so rough on you. Also, sorry and disappointed some players have beat you up on the forum vs making a phone call and having a conversation.
As you are experiencing, the bad times don’t last forever and it does get better.
The heart surgery is definitely a life changing event but, it too will get better in time.
All the very best to you and your kids! :aok They are an amazing priority in life. ❤️
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: DmonSlyr on April 05, 2023, 11:04:42 AM
Thanks for the update, Wow! That is all insane to hear. So sorry about your Ex-wife, dad, and all of that. Very glad you were able to prove your case to get your kids back. That is extremely hard to do these days. So glad for you and your children.
Seriously wish you the best of health and sending my best wishes. I know some of us can be tough on the game development, but you never really know what someone is going through until they tell you. We are still extremely grateful you have kept the game on to allow us to play. This has been my favorite game of all time and I am still here today because of my love and passion for it. The new maps are so much appreciated btw.
All the best to you,
Violator
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: MDStampf93 on April 05, 2023, 11:09:11 AM
:salute
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: popeye on April 05, 2023, 11:29:07 AM
Family and health certainly are the top priority. Hope recovery from surgery goes well and quickly.
:salute
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: JimmyD3 on April 05, 2023, 11:35:05 AM
As always Dale, wish you and the kids the best of luck, Lord willing they will continue to be your joy in the years to come. We will continue to pray for your surgery, we have you on the prayer list at church. Just remember the Master has the Master plan, may His will be done. :salute
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Bizman on April 05, 2023, 11:39:50 AM
:pray :salute
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Prayer on April 05, 2023, 11:57:14 AM
I appreciate the update Hitech/Dale. It means alot to this community. I understand the complete nightmare and stress of family court. Went through a 5 year ordeal and her requesting a jury that was prolonged because of Covid. I ended up with full custody as well. One month after it all ended in February 2022 I had a mini stroke at 38 from all the stress. I was lucky and recovered to 100 percent. Those were the most stressful years of my life.
It is good to hear from you and I wish you and your family well.
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Frodo on April 05, 2023, 12:00:03 PM
:salute Best of luck to you and thanks for the update. We are all pulling for you.
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Kini on April 05, 2023, 12:12:40 PM
:salute
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: nooby52 on April 05, 2023, 12:14:18 PM
:salute
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: SNO on April 05, 2023, 12:44:12 PM
:salute Wish you the best!
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Dadtallica on April 05, 2023, 12:49:30 PM
Good luck on your next journey! You got this! :aok :salute
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Hajo on April 05, 2023, 01:09:50 PM
I am sorry for your troubles. Life has a way of slapping us in the face. Some slaps come from the blindside. It reminds us that some are evil. Fortunately they are a minority, I've been through the same regarding individuals and my health.
Today I am fine. When and if I wake up if I sense a bad day coming my way I look to the heavens and say to God "ah! It's the old screw Hajo Trick". I hope he smiles!
It all gets better! He smiles.
Good luck Dale.
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Lazerr on April 05, 2023, 01:49:53 PM
Good luck on your surgery. My little boy had open heart at the age of 6 months old. The technology these days is insane.
Hope things keep trending in the right direction for you.
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Bixby on April 05, 2023, 02:19:58 PM
I'm very sorry to hear that. Best of luck to you and I am praying for your full recovery.
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Nefarious on April 05, 2023, 02:28:14 PM
When it rains it pours
Glad to hear things are getting better. <S>
If there's anything I can do, let me know.
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Vraciu on April 05, 2023, 02:48:25 PM
Goodness, Dale. Best wishes, man. :cheers: :salute
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Shuffler on April 05, 2023, 02:49:30 PM
The last 1 1/2 years my personal life has been difficult, hence slow development.
The cliff note version is.
Fall of 2021 I filed for a divorce do to my wife trying to alienate the kids from me. She got primary custody at the temp order hearing. The alienation was so bad she was telling our 3 kids to be mean to me so I would give up. I can not describe how difficult it is to have your kids pretend to hate you.
April 2022 My mother passed.
Last August the custody evaluation was completed and recommended she have supervised visitation only. After which she requested a jury trial which delayed the divorce another 1 to 1.5 years. In October primary custody was given to me. Things improved very rapidly since I was given primary possession of my kids. They now act like my children again.
Early march I found out I have an ascending aortic aneurysm. Showed up on cat scan Feb 2021 when I had a sever case of covid, but no one told me about it. May 5 I will have open heart surgery where they replace the first 2 inches of my aorta.
The divorce put a lot of mental stress on me, and I could not focus on any game development since the beginning of the conflict in Augest 2021.
My apologizes for the lack of development, I hope to be back at it soon.
Dale
Damn Dale..... boy do I feel like an arse. I have not been near as hard as many, but I have said some negative things about the game. I have been supporting this game since I signed up... unbroken, for many years now. I was actually considering closing my account. I have not been flying very much at all. After hearing your story, and completely understanding how these things can go through experience...... I am not going anywhere. I'll keep my account open even if I am not flying.
Hope the health side goes as good as the part about getting full custody of the kids. Get yourself lined out.... we'll be here.
Thanks for posting about your personal trials and tribulations. I know that must be difficult for you. It sure explains a lot though. Stay strong!
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Kermit de frog on April 05, 2023, 03:06:39 PM
Sorry for your loss. Glad to hear you got your kids back. Good luck and wish you a speedy recovery with upcoming op! :pray
:salute
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: LLv34_Camouflage on April 05, 2023, 03:10:38 PM
Wow, that sucks monkey balls. I'm glad to hear things are looking better with the kids. Good luck with the surgery!
Camo :salute
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Mongoose on April 05, 2023, 03:20:49 PM
Very sorry to hear about the rough times. Thanks for the update. Please keep us updated about the surgery. :salute
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Wildin on April 05, 2023, 03:40:50 PM
Congrats on the divorce resolution and best wishes for the upcoming surgery. :salute
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: The Fugitive on April 05, 2023, 03:52:48 PM
Thanks for the update Dale I know that was hard to do. Im glad it is all working out with your kids and I wish you the very best with your upcoming surgery. <S>
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: hgtonyvi on April 05, 2023, 04:00:02 PM
I know you were going through it Dale. I never argued about any new developments because I know for sure what was going on in your life. Take it easy, Get well soon brother and come back harder. :salute
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: alskahawk on April 05, 2023, 04:09:22 PM
Sadly I can relate to real life interrupting everything. But real life takes priority. Best to you.
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: -gg- on April 05, 2023, 04:25:46 PM
The last 1 1/2 years my personal life has been difficult, hence slow development.
The cliff note version is.
Fall of 2021 I filed for a divorce do to my wife trying to alienate the kids from me. She got primary custody at the temp order hearing. The alienation was so bad she was telling our 3 kids to be mean to me so I would give up. I can not describe how difficult it is to have your kids pretend to hate you.
April 2022 My mother passed.
Last August the custody evaluation was completed and recommended she have supervised visitation only. After which she requested a jury trial which delayed the divorce another 1 to 1.5 years. In October primary custody was given to me. Things improved very rapidly since I was given primary possession of my kids. They now act like my children again.
Early march I found out I have an ascending aortic aneurysm. Showed up on cat scan Feb 2021 when I had a sever case of covid, but no one told me about it. May 5 I will have open heart surgery where they replace the first 2 inches of my aorta.
The divorce put a lot of mental stress on me, and I could not focus on any game development since the beginning of the conflict in Augest 2021.
My apologizes for the lack of development, I hope to be back at it soon.
Dale
What a horrible, crappy thing to go through with the divorce. What a horrible person your ex must be to stoop so low. I'm glad you're finally seeing some light at the end of that.
And then losing your mom. My condolences to you. I lost my dad in October. First person close to me that I've ever experienced losing.
I'm praying for you and your kids. Hope everything goes as planned with the surgery.
Gina
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Vulcan on April 05, 2023, 04:27:28 PM
Well that truly sucks, hope things start to turn around for ya Dale!
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: RELIC on April 05, 2023, 04:32:05 PM
So sorry to hear this. Sounds like at least some things are working out. Good luck with the surgery and please keep us posted. :salute RELIC
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Elfie on April 05, 2023, 04:41:19 PM
The last 1 1/2 years my personal life has been difficult, hence slow development.
The cliff note version is.
Fall of 2021 I filed for a divorce do to my wife trying to alienate the kids from me. She got primary custody at the temp order hearing. The alienation was so bad she was telling our 3 kids to be mean to me so I would give up. I can not describe how difficult it is to have your kids pretend to hate you.
April 2022 My mother passed.
Last August the custody evaluation was completed and recommended she have supervised visitation only. After which she requested a jury trial which delayed the divorce another 1 to 1.5 years. In October primary custody was given to me. Things improved very rapidly since I was given primary possession of my kids. They now act like my children again.
Early march I found out I have an ascending aortic aneurysm. Showed up on cat scan Feb 2021 when I had a sever case of covid, but no one told me about it. May 5 I will have open heart surgery where they replace the first 2 inches of my aorta.
The divorce put a lot of mental stress on me, and I could not focus on any game development since the beginning of the conflict in Augest 2021.
My apologizes for the lack of development, I hope to be back at it soon.
Dale
I was married to a narcissitic sociopath for 30 years and change. (Well, it will offically be over April 15th.)
The pathological lying, serial cheating, manipulating, gaslighting and scapegoating were so bad that on July 14 2019 I attempted to take my own life. These things combined to give me PTSD so severe that I have seizures, down on the floor, flopping around like a fish out of water.
Both of my parents passed (2019 and 2020).
I am now staying with my son and his family and my mental/emotional health is getting better every day. All 3 of my kids believe me now (at one point none of them did) after seeing some of the 75g of evidence I have in a google drive account and they are all supportive of me filing for a divorce.
Things do get better over time Dale, trust in that, enjoy your kids, and do work you love.
I'm not telling you these things to get sympathy from you or anyone else. I'm telling you these things to show you that there is hope and that things can and do get better. There was a time when I couldn't do anything except pace the floor while ruminating but that has gotten better for me and things WILL get better for you as well. Keep your chin up even if that means you take things one day at a time, 1 hour, or even 1 minute at a time. Make it through each day because those kids of yours depend on you for everything.
I strongly suggest a meditation app (I use Calm) and meditate daily before leaving your bedroom. Consider reading a book titled Brain Talk by Dr David Schnarch for personal healing. Another is Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl (holocaust survivor).
Best wishes to you in your recovery process Dale, you have a long, tough, row to hoe but I and many others are in your corner and we're cheering you on. Feel free to PM me any time.
Elfie, aka Rick
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Drane on April 05, 2023, 04:48:28 PM
:salute
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Peabody on April 05, 2023, 05:30:37 PM
Very sorry to hear about your troubles and more so your loss of your mother. I hope that you are able to recover quickly and gain some sense of happiness and fulfillment in your life. :salute
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: bj229r on April 05, 2023, 05:38:42 PM
Damn Dale, I'm sorry to hear all this. I'm not one to pray much, but I'll give it a whirl
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: steely07 on April 05, 2023, 06:09:28 PM
:salute
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Simon on April 05, 2023, 06:18:59 PM
Dale, thanks for sharing. We're pulling for you. :salute
Simon
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Busher on April 05, 2023, 07:04:48 PM
Sorry for the stress of your family issues Dale. But I am happy that the Doctors discovered your aneurysm before it became catastrophic. Get well soon. :aok
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: KCDitto on April 05, 2023, 11:39:01 PM
Sorry for your loss.
I cannot imagine my kids doing that, that had to be a stress load. Glad they are back
Take care
:salute
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: yipi on April 06, 2023, 01:18:31 AM
Only the best doctors work on hearts. I am sure it will go well. Women Uggh
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: RichardDarkwood on April 06, 2023, 01:22:52 AM
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Peanut1 on April 06, 2023, 01:24:10 AM
For the first time in my life, I have sent a prayer out. <S> Hitech You owe us nothing and have created a wonderful game that many of us have made life long friendships through. Take care and we are very glad to hear from you on a personal level. Please allow any of us with the skillset needed to donate our time in helping you let this game thrive another 20 years. Rest up, drink scotch and grab sum arnold for us married guys!!
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Greebo on April 06, 2023, 02:02:57 AM
Sorry to hear about all your troubles Dale. Best wishes for the future, particularly your upcoming surgery.
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Blade on April 06, 2023, 04:42:47 AM
:salute :salute :salute
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: morfiend on April 06, 2023, 06:04:08 AM
Lost my mom in 21 also but it was for the best.
I hope you have a quick recovery and feel better soon. :pray
:salute
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Pittsspcl on April 06, 2023, 07:42:01 AM
Thank you for sharing that, You have worked hard over the years and developed a very unique community. Many of us escape into this world that you have created occasionally to find many hours of peace and enjoyment away form the stresses that we encounter, I'm certain that you will soon overcome these stressful challenges that you are currently facing. Do keep in mind that you have the support and appreciation from the Aces High family and we are all looking forward to new developments in the future as you successfully navigate these difficult circumstances. Pitts01.
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: xbrit on April 06, 2023, 08:11:57 AM
Best wishes for a speedy recovery. :salute
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: hitech on April 06, 2023, 08:37:50 AM
Once you see it, you can never again unsee it. Changes your complete perspective on some people.
Some my friends also did not believe/understand until I played them some recordings I had made.
HiTech
Dale, I know from the exact same experience, prolly worse, that nothing I say minimizes the pain inflicted on you, nor the images in your head. I won’t tell my story here, call if you need. , but trust me, I believe every word.
The pain you feel, as if everyone is looking at you in a bad light is an illusion, sadly its in the design. When you think “ ya, no one I know would ever go that low” ,…the realization that they really would has a learning curve. Its disorienting, it keeps us off balance. It promotes a complex.
One day maybe we can talk,..no matter, the reality you need is its not you, you’re not a bad guy. We don’t need proof, we know you, thats our proof. No one here is judging you. The reason it effects you is you have conscience, you care how people view you. Bad people don’t care, it won’t effect them.
I’m proof, you can survive anything, but death. Take care of yourself. You now know where the bottom of the barrel is, the bar of pain has been raised. Everything else that was big is now small beans. Its just sad that wisdom is born of bad experiences.
I know how you feel, i have all the t-shirts.
I don’t say get to work because I want changes..I say it because your mind has spent so much time on this, its now conditioned. Find a distraction to break the cycle, take your mind off it and that helps break that cycle and recondition your mind to be you again. Even if mowing lawn works for you.
We’re happy to know you’re still with us and this, but we’re a patient lot, take your time. You’ll be ok, give time, time to work. It will get better.
You humanized yourself to us thats what friends and family do.
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Firetech on April 06, 2023, 10:55:01 AM
The last 1 1/2 years my personal life has been difficult, hence slow development.
The cliff note version is.
Fall of 2021 I filed for a divorce do to my wife trying to alienate the kids from me. She got primary custody at the temp order hearing. The alienation was so bad she was telling our 3 kids to be mean to me so I would give up. I can not describe how difficult it is to have your kids pretend to hate you.
April 2022 My mother passed.
Last August the custody evaluation was completed and recommended she have supervised visitation only. After which she requested a jury trial which delayed the divorce another 1 to 1.5 years. In October primary custody was given to me. Things improved very rapidly since I was given primary possession of my kids. They now act like my children again.
Early march I found out I have an ascending aortic aneurysm. Showed up on cat scan Feb 2021 when I had a sever case of covid, but no one told me about it. May 5 I will have open heart surgery where they replace the first 2 inches of my aorta.
The divorce put a lot of mental stress on me, and I could not focus on any game development since the beginning of the conflict in Augest 2021.
My apologizes for the lack of development, I hope to be back at it soon.
Dale
Take your time to feel and heal brother. It's all a process. We will be here when you are able to get back to it.
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: PanosGR on April 06, 2023, 12:52:27 PM
:salute
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Drano on April 06, 2023, 02:03:06 PM
Sounds like you've had a horrible run HT. Hope it all gets better for you soon. As for your surgery, cardiac things are nothing to sneeze at but I've known several people that had this same procedure including my father. Things that killed our grandparents - - they got stuff for that now. Hope that goes ok too. Keep us updated.
Sent from my SM-G991U using Tapatalk
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Elfie on April 06, 2023, 02:17:33 PM
Once you see it, you can never again unsee it. Changes your complete perspective on some people.
Some my friends also did not believe/understand until I played them some recordings I had made.
HiTech
My kids didn't believe she was cheating until they heard some of the recordings I'd made. Her brother and mother don't believe me and refuse to look at any of the evidence I gathered (almost 75 gigs worth). Only they can fix their level of stupidity and willing blindness.
I've watched hundreds of hours of videos on YouTube by prominent psychologists like Dr Les Carter, Dr Todd Grande, Dr Ross Rosenberg and Dr Ramani Durvahsula. They might as well have a picture of my wife next to them as they talk about narcissism because it all fits.
You aren't wrong about once you see it, you can never unsee it and it does change how you view people and their words/actions.
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: BigR on April 06, 2023, 05:55:26 PM
Dale, HTC has provided literally 2 decades of entertainment and fun for me. I am still having fun. I look forward to new content when you are able, but the most important thing is that you get healthy. Take your time. All the best to you and good luck with your surgery!
:salute
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Banshee7 on April 06, 2023, 06:02:27 PM
<S> Dale!
Makes me wanna get the ole X52 out and sign back up even more!
Best wishes on healing in all aspects!
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: texasmom on April 06, 2023, 06:22:50 PM
I am sorry if you feel like you owe anyone here an apology or explanation.
If there's anyone here who has a phd in getting back up, it's you.
I appreciate you, am thankful for decades of enjoyment that you've shared with all of us.
I hope you give yourself sufficient grace to take good care of yourself without guilt. 🙏❤🙏
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: rvflyer on April 06, 2023, 06:43:25 PM
Life gets better after a divorce, I am living proof. Sorry for the medical problems and the loss of your mom. The loss of parents is devastating, I have lost both but time does make the hurt less and less.
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: MDStampf93 on April 06, 2023, 06:51:48 PM
Damn Dale..... boy do I feel like an arse. I have not been near as hard as many, but I have said some negative things about the game. I have been supporting this game since I signed up... unbroken, for many years now. I was actually considering closing my account. I have not been flying very much at all. After hearing your story, and completely understanding how these things can go through experience...... I am not going anywhere. I'll keep my account open even if I am not flying.
Hope the health side goes as good as the part about getting full custody of the kids. Get yourself lined out.... we'll be here.
Thanks for posting about your personal trials and tribulations. I know that must be difficult for you. It sure explains a lot though. Stay strong!
Get the 38 in the air miss seeing it.
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Spikes on April 06, 2023, 06:54:42 PM
Makes me wanna get the ole X52 out and sign back up even more!
Best wishes on healing in all aspects!
Cya at FSO tomorrow. :)
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: iikie on April 06, 2023, 07:12:39 PM
After a court battle I was awarded custody of my 2 children also... 43 years ago. Did the single parent thing for 5 years and had a pretty good time. Married again for 30 years until my second wife died from cancer. Keep your chin up and do what you have to. We will still be around when you get the time brother.
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: toddbobe on April 06, 2023, 07:18:39 PM
HiTech:
Im sure I speak for the entire player base when I say that if there is anything we can do to help you and or the game please let us know, we understand and stand with you.. and will be willing to help. I want to let you know that your creation here was my therapy when I had great family issues. So I am in your debt.
My family sufferers from AAA also, every male member of the family has it and must seek treatment. You will be ok, it isnt fun, but you will be ok.
Stay strong... we got your 6!
ToddBobe
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Volron on April 06, 2023, 08:26:07 PM
:salute
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Donzo on April 06, 2023, 08:29:07 PM
<S>
Hang in there!
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Molsman on April 06, 2023, 11:00:47 PM
Best Wishes Dale with your kids and Open Heart Surgery that really sucks take it from someone who went through it and the healing time. Just remember that pillow they give ya when ya have to sneeze or cough use it! I had my open heart back in 2017 and til this day I still sleep with that pillow more as a comfort feeling than anything else.
Molsman/Larry
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Mako- on April 07, 2023, 03:15:35 AM
Keep powering through Dale. I totally understand the alienation and bad mouthing of divorce. Great to hear they are coming around though, my experience was the opposite.
I am so sorry to hear about the passing of your mother.
Best wishes on your surgery. You owe us nothing in an explanation, so much fun for so long for all of us, if I may speak for the members here, all thanks to you.
:salute
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Flossy on April 07, 2023, 04:05:21 AM
So sorry to hear of your troubles over the last couple of years. Hope your surgery goes well and that you have a speedy recovery. Glad you have your kids now who can support you through everything. Take care, Dale. :salute
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: ZE on April 07, 2023, 08:34:11 AM
:salute
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Shrike on April 07, 2023, 09:22:10 AM
:salute you built something special Dale which continues to stand strong, in my opinion. Hope all goes will with your procedures and you can return to feeling strong.
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: swareiam on April 07, 2023, 09:43:40 AM
If you don't believe anything else believe this.
You may not believe in God, but HE believes in you. So HE will help you. HE will be there for you, and HE will recover you. HE only requires your faith and trust, that's it.
The reason why you wrote this is that you're feeling hurt, feeling knocked down, and feeling that pain called life, a lot of us have been there. But you're not dead, not out, and feeling like making a comeback.
If you need a different focus point to keep your mind off of things, we have 1 billion requests standing by for you. :D
Know that we haven't given up on you and you are not alone. So get up!
What do you need? We are here to help.
You're reaching out so we are reaching back.
Good to hear from you.
:salute
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: bcadoo on April 07, 2023, 12:13:30 PM
My father had an aortic aneurysm that was discovered with routine screening. They watched it for several years before he opted for surgery. April 1 marked 9 years since his surgery and he is thriving (at 81 years old!)
I won't sugar coat it. Recovery is a b*tch but you take it one day at a time. I wish you the best. I haven't played in many years but I still lurk in the forums and remember the great times and friends I made during my time in the skies.
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Kermit de frog on April 07, 2023, 02:20:13 PM
My kids didn't believe she was cheating until they heard some of the recordings I'd made. Her brother and mother don't believe me and refuse to look at any of the evidence I gathered (almost 75 gigs worth). Only they can fix their level of stupidity and willing blindness.
I've watched hundreds of hours of videos on YouTube by prominent psychologists like Dr Les Carter, Dr Todd Grande, Dr Ross Rosenberg and Dr Ramani Durvahsula. They might as well have a picture of my wife next to them as they talk about narcissism because it all fits.
You aren't wrong about once you see it, you can never unsee it and it does change how you view people and their words/actions.
Good list Elfie.
Once you see it, you'll recognize it in all walks of life. Power of discernment. Gas stations, car dealerships, churches, police, any big name corporation, etc. Always remember the choice is yours to determine who you are.
Wish you the best Hitech, and for a speedy recovery.
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: lyric1 on April 07, 2023, 03:35:08 PM
:salute
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: MotleyCH on April 07, 2023, 08:15:52 PM
:salute
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: kilo2 on April 07, 2023, 09:10:08 PM
well wishes for your surgery and thank you for the game :salute :salute
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Waldo on April 07, 2023, 10:13:17 PM
Dale, sorry to hear of your troubles and of the loss of your mom. I wish you a speedy and full recovery. :salute :salute
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: detch01 on April 07, 2023, 11:27:41 PM
Dale, my condolences for the loss of your Mom. Best wishes for a successful surgery and a quick recovery. You built a damned fine game here. No worries about slow development - anything you do now is polishing a diamond. :rock :salute
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: 1ijac on April 08, 2023, 01:43:16 AM
Wish you the best.
One-eye
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: maxy on April 08, 2023, 09:24:28 AM
well 1st off congratulations on the outcome of the divorce, the sense of relief must be over whelming, 2nd positive, the doctors discovered a life threatening situation that can now be addressed so you will be able to live out your remaining life healthy with your children. My condolence to you and your family on the loss of your mother and your children's grandmother <S>
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Softail on April 08, 2023, 02:12:26 PM
Dale,
I am so sorry to hear about the personal difficulties you have faced and your future medical challenges. Your personal family life and health should be the first order of business. Our squad chatted about your post on our long flight home during FSO last night and we all agreed that you need to take care of yourself and your family first and foremost. We thank you for continuing this game that we all love to play and wish you luck with your procedure and a speedy recovery.
Sincerely,
John Jefferson, <AKSofty> - Arabian Knights.
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Brooke on April 08, 2023, 03:51:25 PM
Best wishes to you, HiTech, on getting through that awful stretch and onto a better and happier path. I'm hoping the bad fades increasingly into the past, and the future feels increasingly free and full of light.
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: -gg- on April 08, 2023, 11:11:29 PM
So Dale, when you get back on your feet are we finally going to be getting the f-16?
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: 100Coogn on April 08, 2023, 11:17:39 PM
:salute Wish you and your kids all the best.
Coogan
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: BAD1051 on April 09, 2023, 08:27:03 AM
Dale...im sorry to hear of the watermelon you are going through. Glad to hear that they caught it before something worse happened. I for 1 am totally happy with your game, it has actually helped get thru alot of crap in my own life, without that mental escape the game provided me...i dont know where i would be right now....probably 6 feet under. So Dale i will say thank you for putting out the best therapy i have. Sir, you take the time you need brother...I for one wont be going anywhere, and will still be here when your ready and able to rock again. Peace N Love to you man...not in a weird way though...LOL -Ed :aok
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: AAIK on April 09, 2023, 11:04:32 AM
Thanks for being so honest HT. We have been wondering where you were. GL and Clear skies.
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Slade on April 09, 2023, 02:14:11 PM
:salute
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Blinder on April 09, 2023, 03:30:16 PM
Been there myself brother. Divorce, health issues, etc. .... I'm a Desert Storm veteran currently battling multiple health issues whilst trying to obtain compensation from the VA. I haven't played Aces High for years ..... but I will pray for you. May God continue to watch over you, bless, renew and restore you.
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Goat1 on April 09, 2023, 05:41:42 PM
:salute
Goat
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: amp on April 09, 2023, 05:43:34 PM
:salute
Midway
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Arlo on April 09, 2023, 07:27:08 PM
Just saw this. Kelly and I wish you the best. It has always been more than a game.
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: 800nate800 on April 09, 2023, 08:31:16 PM
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: ROC on April 09, 2023, 09:21:34 PM
It's been difficult watching the boards flame away at Dale while knowing what was going on. Couldn't say a thing, his story to tell when he was able. Had a wonderful very long phone call with Dale a while back and it was painful hearing the strain in his voice. Dale, always wishing the best for you. When you have been around as long as some of us older folks, you can sense a change in things, know intuitively that something is wrong. Looking forward to your speedy recovery, and some much needed play time with your kids and re-bonding. You have been part of so many lives, you have a huge family behind you with nothing but support. This isn't a game, it's an interactive social table where we meet in person or across the internet to hang out with friends. Thank you for opening up your home to us all!
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: TwinBoom on April 10, 2023, 03:47:46 PM
ty 4 update chin up Dale you got this :cheers:
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: captain1ma on April 10, 2023, 05:48:48 PM
Hi Dale, wishing you all the best. im glad you got custody of your kids and hopefully after your surgery you will be on the mend and able to focus on life! most of us are here for you and will support in any way we can. i personally wish you nothing but good thoughts and prayers. --Gary Davis aka jaeger1
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Shane on April 10, 2023, 06:49:28 PM
:salute
My condolences on your loss.
Glad you were able to deal with everything else and hope things will get better and a speedy recovery and healthy future awaits you.
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Oldman731 on April 10, 2023, 07:51:44 PM
You have been part of so many lives, you have a huge family behind you with nothing but support. This isn't a game, it's an interactive social table where we meet in person or across the internet to hang out with friends. Thank you for opening up your home to us all!
This.
- oldman
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Timppa on April 11, 2023, 08:20:22 AM
Hi Dale, wishing you all the best. im glad you got custody of your kids and hopefully after your surgery you will be on the mend and able to focus on life! most of us are here for you and will support in any way we can. i personally wish you nothing but good thoughts and prayers. --Gary Davis aka jaeger1
I won't be able to say this better so I second this. I hope life will be on the up for you from now on. :salute
Dutch
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Molsman on April 12, 2023, 11:28:24 PM
Can count on a couple handfuls to truly understand that, thank you, knew it would be you.
I read your post buddy and awesome trainer. I know I do not play the game anymore but At sometimes I have the itch to relearn the game as a Mouse flyer. But ya Dales life and health is more important at this time and also like mentioned a lot if have met in real life due to this great game and a lot of us have developed an interest in WW2 sims and coffee hours in the am
Molsman
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Wiley on April 13, 2023, 02:47:06 PM
Yeesh, Dale. That's rough.
Hoping it all goes as well as it can. Best of luck with the surgery!
Wiley.
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: edge12674 on April 14, 2023, 09:42:17 AM
I wish you a speedy recovery Dale and hope you will be pursuing your life passions in no time! Thank you for Aces High and the years of fond memories you have given me.
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Bruv119 on April 14, 2023, 10:25:05 AM
Wish you all the best with the operation Dale,
Onwards and upwards.
:salute
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: MajWoody on April 14, 2023, 10:52:11 PM
Thoughts and prayers for a full recovery, Dale. :pray :salute
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: aztec on April 15, 2023, 10:23:41 AM
So sorry to hear of your difficulties Dale. Stay focused on your needs, the game will wait for you. :salute
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: bortas1 on April 15, 2023, 01:27:50 PM
:salute hang in there bro we are with you :salute :cheers:
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: jedi25 on April 15, 2023, 04:55:54 PM
Dale,
Sad to hear what you have been going trough man, but this community will always be there for you..
And hopefully when I get my sh*t together and be able to return to the game one day in the future.
All the best bruh.. :salute
Jedi25
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: hitech on April 17, 2023, 09:22:04 AM
Found out Friday my brothers cancer has returned and is inoperable.
Dale
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Eagler on April 17, 2023, 09:38:07 AM
Sad to hear the news about your brother Dale
Peace to you and yours in the coming days sir
Eagler
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: DmonSlyr on April 17, 2023, 10:36:47 AM
Found out Friday my brothers cancer has returned and is inoperable.
Dale
Good grief Hitech! Very sorry to hear. Perhaps have him eat some THC brownies every day. Smoke a joint or 2. I'm not joking, it's known to help cancer, but it may make him feel a lil better if anything. Shoot maybe even try some Ivermectin treatments. Couldn't hurt. Cancer freaking sucks. Wishing you the best man.
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Devil 505 on April 17, 2023, 10:42:43 AM
Terrible news, Dale.
Wishing you and your family well in this troubling time.
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Shuffler on April 17, 2023, 02:47:05 PM
Found out Friday my brothers cancer has returned and is inoperable.
Dale
My mother originally had cancer in 77. She survived comfortably with it flairing up a couple of times up till it came back with a vengeance in 2003. We lost her on Oct. 29th of that year. Prayers for you and yours.
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: nopoop on April 17, 2023, 02:59:21 PM
Lost my first wife when it came back..
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: JimmyD3 on April 17, 2023, 05:06:33 PM
Another item for the prayer list Dale, praying for you daily my friend. Will add your brother to the list. :pray
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: captain1ma on April 17, 2023, 05:26:11 PM
keep the faith dale. my prayers are with you.
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Brooke on April 17, 2023, 06:09:36 PM
Very sorry to hear that.
I sent you a message in case of interest.
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Elfie on April 17, 2023, 08:43:19 PM
I'm very sorry to hear this Dale.
Death comes for us all sooner or later but that doesn't mean it's ever easy when the Reaper takes a loved one.
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: SIK1 on April 17, 2023, 09:55:30 PM
:pray
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: HL117 on April 18, 2023, 10:01:57 AM
:salute
:pray
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Getback on April 18, 2023, 07:37:31 PM
Wow! And I thought I was on a bad streak. The most important thing is to take care of you! I'll keep you in my prayers.
My ex-wife used my kids as weapons as well. Eventually they figured it out. Once they had to deal with her, they even said if it's this bad for us what was it like for dad.
In October of 2021 I was trying to do a young man's job and got sick, then sicker. I ended up in the hospital with pneumonia and almost died. Five weeks after I was out of the hospital I told my doctor I don't feel like my old self. He said it takes a while to recover from a near death experience.
Then my best friend of 20 years passed away February 4, 2022 from breast cancer. Which is why my hair is so long these days. I'm hoping to donate it in her name. Then my kid's mom put herself in Hospice because she didn't want to go to dialysis anymore. I begged and pleaded with her not to do this. I cried and whined. She even had our grand kids on her bed. You couldn't reach her. I prayed every day several times for some answer and then I finally prayed for strength. Even with all the hell she put me through I loved her, she was the only one I ever loved. If someone told me this story I would say they were crazy and yet here I am. She died December 22, 2022. Her funeral was on the 28th. Then I was distraught and sick. I came down with COVID. After that, the worst cold ever and then a stomach virus which lingered on for over a month. At one point I was so down I quit my job. Work gave me such a wonderful break. They said take another week off and then make the decision. I was so thankful.
I'm doing much better these days but still miss my wife.
Please take care of yourself. I hope the operation goes well. Pray often and give thanks too.
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: hitech on April 19, 2023, 03:18:19 PM
Wow! And I thought I was on a bad streak. The most important thing is to take care of you! I'll keep you in my prayers.
My ex-wife used my kids as weapons as well. Eventually they figured it out. Once they had to deal with her, they even said if it's this bad for us what was it like for dad.
In October of 2021 I was trying to do a young man's job and got sick, then sicker. I ended up in the hospital with pneumonia and almost died. Five weeks after I was out of the hospital I told my doctor I don't feel like my old self. He said it takes a while to recover from a near death experience.
Then my best friend of 20 years passed away February 4, 2022 from breast cancer. Which is why my hair is so long these days. I'm hoping to donate it in her name. Then my kid's mom put herself in Hospice because she didn't want to go to dialysis anymore. I begged and pleaded with her not to do this. I cried and whined. She even had our grand kids on her bed. You couldn't reach her. I prayed every day several times for some answer and then I finally prayed for strength. Even with all the hell she put me through I loved her, she was the only one I ever loved. If someone told me this story I would say they were crazy and yet here I am. She died December 22, 2022. Her funeral was on the 28th. Then I was distraught and sick. I came down with COVID. After that, the worst cold ever and then a stomach virus which lingered on for over a month. At one point I was so down I quit my job. Work gave me such a wonderful break. They said take another week off and then make the decision. I was so thankful.
I'm doing much better these days but still miss my wife.
Please take care of yourself. I hope the operation goes well. Pray often and give thanks too.
Thanks for sharing, I am not down anything like I used to be. The heart surgery and my brother seem small in comparison of what my wife put my kids and me threw.
Dale
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Eagler on April 20, 2023, 11:02:38 AM
Lost my brother 26 and mother 51 when I was 30 in 1989...just 6 months apart
Time heals all wounds...eventually
My take is life is a sine wave...if you're up you are going to be down before long and gladly vise versa
Hope things get better sooner than later HT
Eagler
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Randy1 on April 20, 2023, 03:39:46 PM
I offer you my sincerest apology having just read your post. I have complained several times about your missing interaction with the game. My apology would have been sooner, but it is not often I visit the forum.
I am so glad you had the courage to share your life's problems with us. It had to be a bit painful. I can only hope posted with some relief as well.
My son lost his daughter, and we lost our only Grandchild in the very same scenario as you described. Painful enough as a grandparent, but even more painful for the affected parent. Again, my sincerest apology, and best wishes for you and your family.
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: DFATITAN on April 22, 2023, 10:32:37 AM
Best of luck Hitech. Been thru the tough divorce and kid thing, losing family and friends, and fighting the myriad of health issues age brings. In the end we can only stand on the moral platform we build/live by and fight the good fight.
We appreciate the dedication and hard work you've put into this game and for a lot of us, it's a big part of our lives and where our friends live (since the late 90's for me). We squeak more than we should but appreciate it more than you know.
Keep us updated, we'll keep the good thoughts and prayers going for you.
>S<!!! Titan
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Ramesis on April 22, 2023, 02:42:08 PM
:salute
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Mano on April 22, 2023, 09:47:54 PM
You and your family will be in my prayers.
:salute
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: fuzeman on April 25, 2023, 10:31:48 AM
Sending as much good karma as I can to Mr. Addink and his Brother and apologies for my tone but F cancer!!!
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: novice on April 25, 2023, 11:05:16 AM
Left him a message on the phone about my account re activation and he called me back in half hour time. Sounded like he is in good spirit. So nice to hear from him!!
Dale thank you for taking care of that issue for me!
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Wingnutt on April 26, 2023, 01:16:23 PM
Best wishes and hope you feel better man, that is rough :eek:
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: mthrockmor on April 27, 2023, 05:08:07 PM
I'm glad they caught the heart issue like they did! Since I'm a fake doctor, grapefruit juice is super healthy for the heart and blood circulation, etc. Anyway, I haven't played in years though I think about it often enough. God bless!
Boo
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: DmonSlyr on April 27, 2023, 09:04:59 PM
1 cup of warm water with a tspn of 35,000 HU organic Cayenne Pepper in the morning. Great for the heart. Sorta awkward at first but then you feel great after. Do some reading on it. I got it here.
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: 999000 on April 28, 2023, 02:12:40 PM
Don't worry about the game. Kids are the best thing you will ever do. Focus on them and your health. I had my open heart surgery amost a year ago. It takes time be patient with your self. <S>
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: BAD1051 on April 28, 2023, 05:37:58 PM
:salute I am glad that things worked out for you in the end with your divorce and kids not being used any longer as pawns. Such a terrible squeak for doing that, trying to pit your kids against you. I for one will be here when you return. The best of luck to you sir. -Ed S
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: guncrasher on April 29, 2023, 12:06:49 AM
I'm glad they caught the heart issue like they did! Since I'm a fake doctor, grapefruit juice is super healthy for the heart and blood circulation, etc. Anyway, I haven't played in years though I think about it often enough. God bless!
Boo
it affects a lot of medications.
semp
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Brooke on May 01, 2023, 10:17:36 PM
Grapefruit and Medicines: A Possible Deadly Mix? https://www.drugs.com/slideshow/grapefruit-drug-interactions-1028
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: AHPoker on May 01, 2023, 10:22:57 PM
I sympathize for you as I went through same thing. EX-wife made it her mission in life to turn kids against me and she did a good job of it. Lost both parents within 2 weeks. Gotta push through it and I know it's tough.
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: mechanic on May 02, 2023, 06:47:31 AM
i'll be signing up again soon, probably wont fly often but here and there when I can. Moved house 3 times in the last 12 months but things are settling again now.
Best wishes HiTech, hope everything goes smoothly and you enjoy a new lease of life.
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: hitech on May 02, 2023, 09:21:42 AM
I'm glad they caught the heart issue like they did! Since I'm a fake doctor, grapefruit juice is super healthy for the heart and blood circulation, etc. Anyway, I haven't played in years though I think about it often enough. God bless!
Boo
I don't have any circulation issues. Only an aneurysm.
And did you stay in a holiday in last night?
Dale
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Eagler on May 02, 2023, 10:01:11 AM
Enjoy the lifestyle change..
My diet went Mediterranean after the two stents implants back in February 2018
Red meat is just about nonexistent while feathers are sprouting out with all the chicken we eat these days
Eagler
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Chris79 on May 02, 2023, 10:20:02 AM
farmers market down the street from me sells it for about 18.00 a pound for the ground meat. BUT, wow does it make good hamburgers! I mean..GOOD. Like steakburgers or something and super lean, even the ground bison was lean.
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Icer on December 02, 2023, 09:49:51 AM
Dale - have been away for quite some time and just read this, hope your health has improved and your life moves forward positively. My old buddy and squad mate Slapshop sent the link to me, just wishing you the best!
-Icer-
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: aztec on December 02, 2023, 12:22:24 PM
All the best to you Hitech. :salute
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: ZE on December 04, 2023, 07:45:31 PM
Dale, Got my heart problem year ago and still working on, and base on my experience the best suggestions I can give are to takes a lot of time with the family and follow MD orders. Thanks for this game. ZE
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: dafez on December 05, 2023, 09:33:12 PM
Just saw this. Hope you're on the mend Dale! Take the time you need to heal!
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: Yeager on December 06, 2023, 07:31:28 PM
had open heart in 2012. Im here today because of it. Its not bad really. Just need to make damned sure you can tolerate pain control meds, because that will make recovery much easier. Took me three months to get back to 80%... 9 more months and I was @ 100%
Give them Hell Dale. and then you can add the P61 A/B... Maybe even Ripsnort makes an appearance!
Let me know if you have any questions about recovery, or mental conditioning before the procedure.
Title: Re: That last 1.5 y
Post by: Professor_Fate on December 10, 2023, 06:29:37 PM
Breaks my heart to that Mr. Dale. There’s no doubt in my military mind that time heals all wounds. The first priority is your health and your children. As for your digital child and all of us adopted wackos who fly it, don’t worry we’ll manage. :cheers:
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: diaster on December 14, 2023, 10:38:46 PM
Thanks for sharing, I am not down anything like I used to be. The heart surgery and my brother seem small in comparison of what my wife put my kids and me threw.
Dale
Dale, My best to you and yours, we will pray for you.
If you haven't read it, there is a book on cancer, written by Tommy Johnson Sr. called "Cancer, The True Story of How I Survived Absolute Terminal Cancer". His son is a friend, that book can be of great use to cancer patients. It's available in the Kindle format on Amazon.
I'm dealing with cancer myself. I have surgery on the 20th, second time in 4 months, to remove some bad cells. So even though I'm by no means terminal, I understand dealing with recurrence, etc. It's not easy, the family suffers terribly as well.
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: AKIron on December 16, 2023, 11:33:36 AM
Of course but losing a child will always leave a hole. If you haven't just ask someone who has.
No doubt. I have several friends who have. I have thus far been spared. I would wish that on no one. Those people in particular have had to make a choice to heal and to be happy, and no one has worked harder. One started a charity, to teach young people to avoid the sort of accidents that took their children. One started an event to raise funds for a charity to deal with the disease that took their son. There's always the hole. They have chosen to use the hole.
Title: Re: That last 1.5 years
Post by: hazmatt on December 16, 2023, 01:39:11 PM
No doubt. I have several friends who have. I have thus far been spared. I would wish that on no one. Those people in particular have had to make a choice to heal and to be happy, and no one has worked harder. One started a charity, to teach young people to avoid the sort of accidents that took their children. One started an event to raise funds for a charity to deal with the disease that took their son. There's always the hole. They have chosen to use the hole.
I have not been so lucky. It is, in fact, a life changing moment that never leaves you. Make no mistake, your imagination will not cover it. When you lose both mom and child,...it will spike you hard,... forever. You will look at life, death and time much differently. Negative people are a vexation you can't push away fast enough nor hard enough, however ridiculous. No one needs a cherry on the top. Surround yourself with decent humans with positive attitude, people who have empathy, because ya probably can't take anymore negative in any form. So when I get nasty, and I will, it's because someone brought negative to my dinner table. Life is too short to settle for one minute of nonsense. OTOH, it would be very hard for anyone to top what you've already been through, no matter how crafty they think they are on getting to you. When they think they have, they actually haven't even moved the needle.
Advice: don't make them relive it by asking what happened.