The point is, any collision is your fault. It's only what you see that matters. It's calculated on your front end, it's only you that can avoid it. If you're getting into constant collisions you should work on staying a bit farther away from solid objects in the air around you. Maybe others understand that and don't bother saying "nice ram".
Yes, I've had rare collisions where the guy cut across my path in rolling scissors.... I should have anticipated & reacted. My plane hit him. I've also seen the same guy vanish in a puff though he was 30yds away in my view, also rare. The life of net gaming. But if you back off just a bit, it will happen less. Sounds to me you're just a touch too agressive and pushing in closer than necessary, cause I know you're a decent stick.
Booz
p.s. apologies for previous statement, I truly thought you were only complaining about head on rams.