Author Topic: With no parents to ask... (Read 963 times)

Naytch · « **on:** October 22, 2005, 10:01:05 PM »

...I ask the ah community.

I'm thinking of asking this girl out next week (this week is exams). It'll be semestral break so I'm gonna have to do it on the phone.

Any advice? It'll be my first try askin a girl out, so I'm in the dark here. I don't live in a country where there're cool restaurants to eat in (in this place they're eighther too expensive, or they're McDonald's). I'm thinking about the movies, there's one nearby. But, there aren't many appropriate movies coming out these days; Deuce Bigolo, Doom, and lots of native language movies, which she won't understand.

My uncle is willing to help me out for the date itself (if she should say 'yes') but, I'm still in the dark on how to ask her.

nirvana · « **Reply #1 on:** October 22, 2005, 10:21:27 PM »

I don't ask many girls out but go with something like "Hey I was wondering if you wanted to go do something on ..... with me." I'm no ladies man but it's better then "HEY! WANNA ****!?"

Oh and you could also rent a movie and watch it at your place if you wanted.

Shane · « **Reply #2 on:** October 22, 2005, 10:21:54 PM »

uhhh you're asking a BBS fulla men who play at being fighter pilots and have probably not seen, much less spoken to a woman outside of pr0n sites and 900 nbrs?

good luck wit' dat!

oh wait.... listen to all the suggestions....

then ignore them as being no good.

Pooh21 · « **Reply #3 on:** October 22, 2005, 10:43:03 PM »

Well first things first. Dont listen to Shane on romantic advice,because EVERYONE here knows he cries himself to sleep everynight while hugging his pillow from lonliness.

Call her and scream into the phone "Waaaaaazzzzzzaaaaa!"

be sure to tell her about your best sortie.

Anything she says. look into her eyes, and say yes occasionally. or I would never have thought about it that way, or how insightful.

circa 20 minutes later, if you brought some wine along you should be banging it like a caveman.

Rolex · « **Reply #4 on:** October 22, 2005, 10:46:57 PM »

How to Pick up Girls by Rolex.

First, you go up to her and say this: "Hi. Can you do me a favor?"

She will say yes, because everyone says yes. Then tell her something like this: "I know this sounds strange, but I wanted to ask your advice about something. I really don't have anyone to ask... I want to ask this girl out, but I'm not sure what to say or where to take her."

She'll probably laugh... keep going - it's a good sign.

"Really, I'm serious! You must get asked out all the time, so I thought you'd be an expert on this. What do you think I should say?"

There is a 99% chance she'll tell you to just go talk to her.

"I'd be happy just talking to her, but I don't know where to go. Do have any ideas? Help me! Please! Hahaha!"

As long as she is smiling, you're good to go. Have fun on your date!

fartwinkle · « **Reply #5 on:** October 22, 2005, 10:50:22 PM »

Asking a new girl out is a crap shoot.
Sometimes they say yes and sometimes no.
If she says no DO NOT take it personal as there are millions of girls your age in the world..

Most fellas have to go to bat a whole lot before they get a home run LOL.
But when asking her do so with confidence as chicks hate the wormy type .
Be strong polite and direct and if she says no then ask her if she has any friends that might want to catch a movie lOL that drives em nuts.

Callisto · « **Reply #6 on:** October 22, 2005, 10:59:32 PM »

Nothing to it.. just ask her as you'd ask any of your other friends.

blah blah blah.. i heard about this awsome movie.. balh blah blah.. Its a must see... eveyone is talking about it.. blah blah blah...
wanna go see it?..blah blah blah.

Movie is a cool place for a first date..its dark and someone else does the entertanment for ya.

after the movie, you'll have a common topic to discuss..

If things go well, maybe she'll let you give her an extra sneaky castro or portugese breakfast.

Best of luck! let us know how it went.

P.S. Deuce Bigalow 2 is awsome.

Naytch · « **Reply #7 on:** October 22, 2005, 11:00:07 PM »

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Originally posted by fartwinkle
if she says no then ask her if she has any friends that might want to catch a movie lOL that drives em nuts.

LOL! that's a pretty good idea.

nirvana · « **Reply #8 on:** October 22, 2005, 11:30:35 PM »

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Originally posted by Callisto

If things go well, maybe she'll let you give her an extra sneaky castro or portugese breakfast.

That doesn't even sound good Callisto, you sick freak.

Leslie · « **Reply #9 on:** October 22, 2005, 11:41:02 PM »

Not enough information as to what country or local customs there. My first date worked out like this.

I pledged a high school fraternity and while a pledge often made trips to Dauphin Island, where one of the senior members' parents had a house. I often would walk up the beach to the Holiday Inn (about two miles) for exercise and because as a pledge I was forbidden to drink and had to do something to keep from being bored.. Didn't drink anyway so that was no biggie.

On one of these walks I met an 18 year old girl at the poolside at night. She was a nice girl, but I was 15 and didn't have a driver's license. Didn't tell her that, but I was ready for a date (some incidental peer pressure from the frat.) First thing I asked was did she have a boyfriend. She said she didn't (she liked me.) I asked her out for pizza and she said yes.

Now the thing was, she thought I was older than I was, and after having to go on several double dates in someone elses car, she became suspicious. She was pissed when I told her my age, because I had kissed her a couple times (awkwardly, another give-away.) My frat brothers said this would happen and to be ready for grief. It wasn't to be because of the age difference. But that was the first date where I asked a girl out and she was really interested. After that, getting a driver's license was top shelf priority for me. Though it was too late, and most of the girls I asked out after that didn't compare.

But for first dates, ya can't go wrong with bowling, putt-putt golf, sporting events etc, where there's people around in a public setting. Kinda gives an atmosphere of relaxation for both parties, and a "sizing up", so to speak, of the other person's character. See if you're compatible for instance, topics of conversation and such. If she laughs then you're halfway there.

Dinner, movies, is more adult, and used as a date more than you think to avoid conversation and getting to know someone better. Never for a first date.

Good luck!!!

Les

ROC · « **Reply #10 on:** October 22, 2005, 11:45:56 PM »

Ya know, I was kind of laughing when I first read this, but then I thought what the heck, I didn't have anyone to ask when I ventured out so why not.

42 years old here, married 18 years, mind you, to the same woman, which in this day and age is saying something!

Dude, trust me, don't try so hard. Be yourself, they will like you or they won't.

If you want to take her out, tell her so, simple as that. There is no trick, no line, no BS that anyone worth a crap is going to buy into. Now, here is the tough part, if a Line or some BS DOES work, you don't want her.

James Bond is good for the movies and books. Don't try too hard. If she is worth being with, she is worth being yourself with. The point of a good relationship is simply being comfortable being with them.

Now, as for "how" to do it, simply call her up and say that you want to spend some time with her. Mini Golf, a movie, McD's or whatever, you just want to spend the free time you have with her. I'm betting that a sandwich and sitting on a park bench will be just fine.

nirvana · « **Reply #11 on:** October 22, 2005, 11:50:22 PM »

Yeah what ROC said, be yourself, if she likes you great, if she doesn't, what the hell. There are tons of girls.

P.S> congrats on 18 years to the same woman ROC, always good to see a couple that can stick it out.

JB66 · « **Reply #12 on:** October 22, 2005, 11:53:42 PM »

IMO just do it...the worst she can say is yes...err no. Basically what ROC said. Be yourself and have fun.

Naytch · « **Reply #13 on:** October 23, 2005, 12:45:13 AM »

Thanks guys. I'm confident that I can act natural around anyone - from a complete stranger that insists on talking with me on a bus, all the way to the evil principle. The problem is she is very shy, so anything I say might put her off or make her uncomfortable, u know?

To make things worse: I live in a third world country so there's no such things as parks, mini-golf (which I miss dearly) or sporting events. To make it even more inconvenient is that transportation is far below average here. If we wanna go anywhere far, we have to : walk long distance in the polluted sidewalks, the smelly train, or crowded jeepney.

Thankfully she lives near a mall, so that's why it's eighther restaurant or movies.

Vulcan · « **Reply #14 on:** October 23, 2005, 03:44:15 AM »

Cash always works for me!