What do you say to your 13 yr old son on his facebook

[Yeager]

While you wait for his body to be recovered from a river?

One mother said this:
 Josh, several divers from Tacoma went in (voluntarily) to look for you today, very nice guys, you would have liked them, but they didn't find you. I know you're worried about everyone, but hon, we are hanging in there, full of hope that you will be home soon. God, I miss you so much, Michael tried to go back to work tonight, came back 2 hours later, just couldn't. Michael and I sent up 2 shiny gold balloons with a special message for you. Wasn't the moon beautiful tonight? Everyone is being wonderful. I know you saw the t-shirts and all the people that were at the candlelight vigil. We have had so much support from so many people, it's incredible. Luke wants to come over often, Andrew made the black t-shirts and Nic has been by several times. I told Shania I love her and you are always going to be there. I know in my heart that you are looking down on us. Tell Grandma Shirley I love her and to take care of you.

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I didn't know the young man or his family but I was touched by the tragedy.  We are all human and we are all in it together.  For better and for worse.

[Shuffler]

Everyone handles their grief differently.

[oakranger]

where did you see this at?

[Yeager]

He was lost in the river almost two weeks and finally recovered yesterday.  I cannot imagine the grief, not hardly, but I felt relief that he was found.  It is a shared human experience.

[uptown]

She said it in a way that wanted to make me tear up. I have 2 boys that age, and I would lose my mind long before I got to Facebook. Losing a child is something I truely wished never happened.

[Shuffler]

Dan (Corkyjr) Lost a Son and a Daughter in the same car wreck about 5 years a go....... anniversary is this Saturday. 

[Yeager]

where did you see this at?

Was on the Skagit.  We lost several people on rivers over just a few weekends when the weather became hot.  Happens every year and is always such a heartbreaking time.  Weather gets hot and kids (and drunk adults) go in the water.  Always some that die.

http://www.goskagit.com/home/article/body_found_this_morning_in_skagit_river/

[Yeager]

Dan (Corkyjr) Lost a Son and a Daughter in the same car wreck about 5 years a go....... anniversary is this Saturday. 

I remember.  Just plain heartbreaking. 

You know, there are times when I wonder if being alive is really worth all the pain.  I guess religious folks are freed from that sort of wondering.  Don't get me wrong.  I love life and being alive, loving and being loved.  I just dread the ever constant possibility that tragedy is always just a heartbeat away.

Fortunately for me when I get to the end of that train of thought there is a natural sense of continuation, carrying on.  Life goes on.  Life marches on.  Rest assured.

[mbailey]

I couldnt fathom loosing my little ones, then 2 weeks ago this happened, I cut this from our squads forum I posted it 2 weeks ago

<POST>
Gents, Had a bit of a horrific weekend this weekend,which is the main reason you fellas havent seen me on this week. While at my mother in laws house working outside, we heard the neighbor across the street scream, . My wife and I went across the street to see what we could do to help, and find out what was going on. The familys 1 1/2 yrold child got out of the house (who was watching the child i have no idea) and fell into the pool. CPR was done on the child until the ambulance showed up 5mins later, then the EMTs took over CPR.We found out about an hr later that it was all for nothing as the child did not make it.
As a dad this really has screwed me up, picturing the little one on the ground with pb&j still on his face, and finding out an hr after the ambulance left that he died. <end post>

Until this happened a few weeks ago, my mind was not even open to the fact that this could even happen. Now i find myself watching my kids ( boy girl twins 10rs old ) like a hawk (more so than i use too). The pain this woman,or any parent that looses a child, feels could not even be imagined by me,and i pray never is.

[mbailey]

Double  post

[tmetal]

Seven years ago in May, my brother and his new wife where both killed in a car accident. They were both only 19 and this left their 7 week old son with out parents.  The worst part for me was when some one would say that "god had a plan".  I doubt that any god who is a kind and caring creator of life would plan something like that out.  Anyway, there is not a day gone by that I haven't thought of my brother and sister-in-law who have gone before us, and there are times when I will talk to my brother because it helps me deal with the hurt.  I guess the point of this ramble is that everyone deals with loss and sorrow in their own way and if this is how that mother can best deal with it, then continue on I say.

  all those who have gone before and are now at ease, waiting for the rest of us.

[CAP1]

Was on the Skagit.  We lost several people on rivers over just a few weekends when the weather became hot.  Happens every year and is always such a heartbreaking time.  Weather gets hot and kids (and drunk adults) go in the water.  Always some that die.

http://www.goskagit.com/home/article/body_found_this_morning_in_skagit_river/

 a few years back, i had the nj state police bring one of their choppers to our CAP squadron, based on kavy.......for the cadets to see and learn.

 they were supposed to bring southstar(south jerseys med-evac chopper..a very impressive sikorsky), but they had to transport a patient to maryland. they called me and asked if i'd be happy with one of their rescue choppers. very nice people really. anyway, they sent a 206 jet ranger, flown by to of the nicest cops i've ever met.
 they were 20 minutes late. they fell all over themselves apologizing, and explained that they had to pull a couple of teens(drunk and on a weeknight too) out of the delaware river. no one was mad at all that they were late.
 the kids were in awe, and the officers looked like they were super happy talking to the kids like that. they also explained that between all 4 of their rescue choppers, they pull about 10 people a week out of the delaware.

[CAP1]

i tend to just pull into a shell for a bit when something hurts me that bad.....it's what works best for me.

sorry for all of your losses too.

[mechanic]

she must be a very strong woman to have written such a possitive note.

[Dichotomy]

i tend to just pull into a shell for a bit when something hurts me that bad.....it's what works best for me.

sorry for all of your losses too.

ya that's me... often to my detriment

as Cap said.. sorry to all who have faced this.