Sometimes I like to do Squad Missions, but if it involves a fighter or Bomber I don't like I'll go look for another fight. Sometimes I get really irritated at the Rooks. I've always been a rook, but some days we just lay their and take it. 
We don't seem to be able to get organized if our lives depended on it. Then here comes a mass # horde w/ dozens of Bombers & fighter escorts. Do I log off and blame people for not playing my way, NOPE! I leave that Horde-Fest and go find a smaller fight that appeals to me more & let them have the base...why? CUZ I DON'T CARE!!! & You can"t make me care, so get over it. I will never do what you want on a consistent basis. I've worked very stressful jobs in my life and come here to ratchet down a notch or three. 
I play this game they way I want, every day, every minute. Sometime I Ho, sometimes I don't. Sometimes if enough of us are defending from a horde, & I feel like it, I'll stick around, and then congratulate everyone for the nice "Save". Next time I might not feel like it...so? Like it's been said 1000 times, "It's MY $14.95"... & most days, I like everyone I meet here, even the squeakers, and those guys that miss the sheep so badly.... 
It is what it is.... 
It's interesting but your logic for not caring, is my logic for caring about how I play.
It makes no sense to me to not think about it as we all come at it from different angles. I'm not a GV guy, but it doesn't seem to much to ask for the GV guys to have tank town not get over run on the map. Imagine the guy who enjoys tanking to wind down a couple times a week. It's mindless fun, and maybe he gets a two hour shot after the kids are to bed, the honey-do list is done, the bills are paid, etc. He logs on and tank town is one color as the horde has over run it 'because they can".
55 other bases to take and just to muck it up they overun tank town. The cry comes back 'if you want it that bad defend it!" Well considering this guy gets a few hours a week to enjoy the game, and while it was being over run, he was finishing up his real life stuff, how could he have done that?
Seems like that applies to all parts of the game. The guy who griefs a decent furball and kills the hangers 'just because he can", when it serves no other purpose other then to ruin the fun for others is only thinking about his 'fun'.
Because it's a game, and because we all pay our 15 bucks a month I don't think it's asking too much of folks to at least think about what they are doing. Will I hop into a mission. Doubt it. Will I up to defend a base. Absolutely. That's my contribution to the 'team' folks scream about.
Do I expect no to get picked in a furball? Nope. It will happen. Will I ask before I dive in if I see a 1 v 1 going on away from the furball? You bet. What can it hurt. If the guy wants help I will, but if he wants me to stay out I will too. It doesn't cost me anything to do that.
I don't get nearly the time to fly that I did in the past. So my 'flying time" is used to look for a fight, say hello to the folks I know and have some fun. Obviously there are folks who have a lot more time to spend on the game. Seems like because of that, they could be even more aware of how their game play impacts on the fun of all.
It should be enjoyable for everyone, because we are coming here to relax, have fun and get away from the real world.
