hblair,
Interesting thread. I saw your reference to North and South, and it reminded me of something my friend once told me. He's from Cleveland, OH and black, but he has close family relations in the South and has visited them often. One day I asked him if it sometimes seemed that the South was ironically somehow less stressful wrt race. He thought about and said that in many ways it was more relaxed in the South than up North. We talked about it some more, coming to the conclusion that in the South things are much more up front mostly due to the legacy of slavery - almost like two people who had come to blows and after the fight find a new respect. In contrast, the North is much more in denial of their racism, claiming other more 'justifiable' reasons for their discrimination.