Again I agree with GScholz on the 38 handling in AHII. And yes, combat trim must always be off with the P38 in either AHI or II. Flying with it on can hamper you badly, and since no rudder or aileron trim is ever needed unless you've taken damage, manual trimming is not hard. I find the AHII 38 seems slightly smoother and more stable at low speed than in AHI, and the behaviour of the plane during hammerhead manouevers seems even nicer than in AHI (little more stable, a little more predictable during the noseover at near-zero speeds).
As for unrecoverable spins, I've managed to put the P38 in both AHI and AHII into unrecoverable flat spins ("Goose, I can't control it!"). Don't ask me exactly how, because I haven't put effort into consistently reproducing it, and it doesn't happen often. I think it happened more often when I was experimenting with applying uneven power to the engines to accelerate hammerhead reversals, but I've managed it a couple of times with full power to both engines. The flight model isn't perfect, it's a rough approximation, so things won't always behave as expected.