Any of them can be abused and it all depends on who made the standard as well. There are some lousy standard, as well as lousy automatics on the market.
My automatic Infinity I30 has over 130,000 miles on it, and has never had a single problem, of any kind. The fluid and filter have been replaced twice.
The wife's Volvo S60 has over 80,000 miles and no problems with its automatic either.
However, if it is a Honda, then it will be a standard. The Honda slush box sucks.
It just depends on who built them. Some companies make better automatics than standards and vice-versa.