Let's try this on for size with other stuff:
"Why, I was raised knowing that land ownership is something that's limited to whites! These blackies, they can LIVE on the land, and they can maybe even lease it long term, but it's just not right to allow them to OWN it."
"I was raised knowing that womenfolk aren't allowed to vote. Now, they can try and convince their husbands on how to vote, nobody is stopping that, they just don't deserve the actual VOTE."
Heterosexuals get special rights, sounds like the gays just want to have equal access to those rights.