Author Topic: Need an opinion dealing with a smoker... (Read 1016 times)

Curval · « **Reply #45 on:** October 18, 2005, 03:50:00 PM »

Here's what you do:

Next time she lights one up you go up to her and with your index finger and thumb grab her ear. Then twist it really hard. She will go "Owww" and sort of lean over.

Then, with her ear firmly in your grasp, pull her towards the door. Ignore all of the "Stop it, that hurts" mumbo jumbo until you get to the door (front or back, makes no difference). Open the door and then guide her outside.

Then, just before you let go of her ear give her a swift kick in the backside. This will add a sort of "exclamation point" to your actions but will also get her away from the door allowing you to slam it closed. Just before the door slams yell at her:

"Take that filthy habit of yours outside!"

Ignore her pounding on the door for about 3 to 4 minutes...about as long as it takes for her to finnish the cigarette.

That's it....problem solved.

(But you will probably have two additional problems, one...finding a new place to live, and two...finding a new girlfriend.)

Seraphim · « **Reply #46 on:** October 18, 2005, 03:52:46 PM »

mosgood · « **Reply #47 on:** October 18, 2005, 05:51:00 PM »

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Originally posted by eagl
My brother moved from CA to AZ so he didn't have to live with family. At least he respects himself enough to make the tough decision instead of griping about his host's addiction.

hmmm... that's an idea... maybe you could subtly hint that you will need to move out of state to afford a place to live and support the family because you can't stand having your daughter and you live in a house where smoking is constantly going on. Maybe you float this by the GF in a subtle way and then let her work on her mom. Mom isn't gonna like having the grandchild so far away.... hopefully.

rpm · « **Reply #48 on:** October 18, 2005, 06:09:17 PM »

I must have misread that. I thought it was the girlfriend, not her mom. But I just noticed this little nugget:

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However, my argument is the obvious stink (everyone thinks I smoke now) and also my gf's daughters clothes, the impression given to her school.

You are living with a single Mom who is living with her mother?!? Before you go whining about what the Mom who pays the bills and provides you a shelter does, you need to listen to Tom Leykis. Better yet, you should call in and speak to The Professor himself.

mosgood · « **Reply #49 on:** October 18, 2005, 06:17:03 PM »

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Originally posted by rpm
I must have misread that. I thought it was the girlfriend, not her mom. But I just noticed this little nugget:

You are living with a single Mom who is living with her mother?!? Before you go whining about what the Mom who pays the bills and provides you a shelter does, you need to listen to Tom Leykis. Better yet, you should call in and speak to The Professor himself.

I got the impression that the GF AND the mom doesn't work and that HE is paying the bills.

stantond · « **Reply #50 on:** October 18, 2005, 06:48:42 PM »

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Originally posted by eagl
Heh, a lot of twitchy responses from the smokers in here. Been a while since your last fix? Or does the truth about your life hurt that much?

There are plenty of honest smokers who acknowledge their addiction and what it's done to them... They're the ones who aren't trying to justify their addictive behaviors or say that if their drug was withheld, they could be just as reliable as someone who isn't addicted "if they had to". Yea right. Both of my parents smoked and I work with a number of smokers. And every one of them is a slave to the nicotine and turns into a raving lunatic when it's withheld. Some can go hours without a hit, some start twitching and acting irrational in under an hour. For some, the mere thought that they MIGHT not be able to get their fix is enough to cause them to drop everything and start a frantic search for a smoke.

I rely on them of course... I rely on them to act just like that if I ever had to count on them for anything.

Broad brush? Yea. 99%. I think in my entire life I've met ONE smoker / dipper who actually wasn't addicted. One out of thousands.

Karaya, what's got yer panties in a bunch? Suggesting that if a guy wants any respect, he needs to get a place to stay other than his girlfriend's Mom's house is such a bad idea? Live on the dole, die on the dole. My brother moved from CA to AZ so he didn't have to live with family. At least he respects himself enough to make the tough decision instead of griping about his host's addiction.

Eagl's sense of humor takes a bit of getting used to. And since I am on the topic: yes, that gay spiderman avatar is very annoying.

Regards,

Malta

Bcnu · « **Reply #51 on:** October 18, 2005, 07:21:12 PM »

Here's one that wasn't posted: go to your local home improvement place, buy an air purifier and put it in a room mutually agreed upon to be the smoking room.

Personally I don't see the trouble with smoking outdoors in CA. When I was in college (Gauuuuchooooos), I smoked; but never indoors, not even in my own car. When I quit, I sweated tobacco smell (like a fresh-opened pack) for three days, but that was that. No patches, self-help programs or other wussiness.

IMO the reason people go through such grief quitting is because everyone says it's hellish, not because it is hellish. From sitcoms to news shows and certainly the people selling gum and patches, the expectation of inability is set. We're conditioned to go through nightmares about it. I think that's worse than the chemical itself.