You two aren't talking about the same thing.
Chairboy seems to use the definition of atheism as only the absence of belief in god, while Lazs seems to see it as belief in the absence of god.
Lazs might want you to just admit you're either religious if you conform to the latter, or dishonest if you do so without admitting to it being a leap of faith or conforming to the former while arguing for Atheism as defined in a dictionary.
Reschke, I don't think that's possible, considering they're mutually exclusive.
"ultimately ends up with loosing a person who could be a friend"
i.e. they can't cope with realizing they don't have the spine to survive reasserting their opinion of the moment?