should I?

[Debonair]

Originally posted by north
chicks like that kinda stuff.
thats just how they roll

her ex was a f**n jerk, who lied to her, humiliated her, beated her:mad:

will this paper make her feel more secure with me?

what part of "thats just how they roll" do you not understand?

[DREDIOCK]

Dont do it.

If you do you will realise that San Quinten probably has a more relaxed atmosphere and you will be driven more crazy then the nuttiest of nuts at Bellview

Envision this. Now you come and go as you please. You get angry, your in a bad mood, you can just go away. Same if she is in a bad mood.
Once your maried there is no escape. Your stuck in the same house.
If you go anywhere you have to let her know where. With some women you even have to ask permission.

Now think about that. Isnt that what you had to do with mommy when you were a child?

And god forbid you come home late.
Mommy might ground you.
A wife canmake you long for days of when you just got grounded

Usually you end up living with a lunatic at least 1 week out of the month.
And its never pretty.
Just wait till you say something innocent like "Man what a nice day it is today"
That will get met with . "Yea nice for you maybe. I'm glad you ($(*@) think so!"

Or you say somethig really simple like "the sky is blue"
andyou get a responce of "Whats that supposed to mean??"
You will say. "Nothing. Just that the sky is blue"
And she will retort....(ok everyone has heard this one before so join right in)
"THATS NOT THE WAY YOU SAID IT"
As though the simple statement of "the sky is blue" has some sort of hidden meaning that is intended to be derogatory towards her
and make no doubts about it. Women ARE lunatics.
What else but a lunatic would dare get in a persons face who can easily kill them.

then they will ask you the most rediculous questions.
"what would you do if I Die?" is my all time favorite

Or questions there is no correct answer to
such as "You like my new hairdoo?"
If you say it looks fine she will say she doesnt like it and if you say you dont like it, she will become highly offended.
the only correct answer is a non answeer. in short. just grunt


And. "Does this dress make me look fat?"
Again, correct answer grunt

Dont even think of telling her she looks fat in it. THAT my friend will start WWIII
And dont dare tell her she looks fine if she doesnt. Just grunt

Oh and they seem to have a thing. On the rare occasion you get sex anymore. Right afterwords she will wnt ot talk about stuff like, The bills, Or other domestic duties. Or any othe subject you will be least interested in talking about at that time.

I could go on. and on, and on. As Im only sraping the surface
But in a nutshell thats pretty much what your in for

If you decide you want ot get married anyway. Remember two things.
Never never ever marry someone with less of a sexual appetite then you do.

And on holidays. XMas. Mothers say, or your anniversary.
NEVER NEVER forget to get her a card.
You can get away with not getting a gift every now and again. But NEVER will you get away without getting a card.
You could buy a $100,000 necklace but if you forget the card. You might as well have goten that necklace out of a cracker jack box

Now think about it.
Every word I have said is true. And I only scratched the surface.

you REALLY wanna sign up for that?

[doobs]

ok north unsquelch me and squelch the following, Drediock, Diablo again(only cause the responses are unbalanced)



let him join the club........ahhhh helll squelch me again

[Deth7]

And if you really feel brave when she asks "do these clothes make me look fat?" tell her the clothes have nothing to do with it:O

[cav58d]

Originally posted by north
well, she is not perfect, but who is?

I love her and I try to show it to her every day, so she won't go to look for it somewhere else. We've been through alot, but every time I'm about to loose her I realize that I'm nothing without her, that she is my future and my past and my everything.

I just don't think we need this paper to know that we belong to each other.

North...You say everytime YOU are about to lose her?  Is that always the case?  Has there ever been a time when SHE was about to lose YOU?  If so, did she feel, and react the same way as you?

just something to think about....

[north]

Originally posted by cav58d
North...You say everytime YOU are about to lose her?  Is that always the case?  Has there ever been a time when SHE was about to lose YOU?  If so, did she feel, and react the same way as you?

just something to think about....

she doesn't trust men...I'm not afraid of losing HER, but her trust and openness. She is very social and friendly, but she've never done anything behind my back - in that I'm sure.

[Hap]

Marriage is a vocation.  All I have is bad past experience; and today, a firm conviction that the first sentence is true.  Best to explore marriage from that angle if at all possible.

Regards,

hap

[north]

I can't believe that small piece of paper changes so many things:confused:

[DiabloTX]

You bet your bellybutton it does.

Many people make a living exploiting that piece of paper.
$50k marriages and $1mil divorces.

[Meatwad]

One thing you should never do is to rush into it. Think every thing out and takeit slowly from the start. Mine failed because we rushed into it and then realised how different both of us are.  I really dont want to get into the long story but its from experience.

If you have doubts now, you will have more of them further on

[north]

Mine failed because we rushed into it and then realised how different both of us are.  


We are similar and different at the same time. But aren't trust and partnership the most important components of the relationship?  I mean we share the same values...

[north]

Originally posted by Neubob
My only piece of advice, and this comes from unfortunate experience... If you love her, do NOT let her see this thread.

How will she know that I love her then?
Dont you think that if you intend to be someone else in your relationship you better call it quit at the very begining?

I want to be myself when married. Or is it some kind of rules I have to follow?

[B@tfinkV]

hey north.

if you can't be yourself in marriag, then dont marry.


In my experience, alot of women are like the others have described, but not all women.



my current girl friend, lives in a seperate house from me even after 4 years seeing each other.  

when she asks what clothes look like i just give the flat answer 'they look chit, fat arse'.  after she got used to this not being a real insult it now saves me the trouble of thinking of an answer as she expects this retort.


i dont spend money on her ever, and she not on me. we have a £10 ($17) limit on birthday and christmas which is amazingly fun, and i never buy her cards.

she agrees with me that valentines day is another pimp day for the card companies.  thats another one gone.

she understands that as my girl shes has.....er...certain physical obligations to me.  yes there are women out there that dont consider themselves the one that deserves the speacial treatment. this girl actually wants to please me to stop me fooling around with anyone else. but then i do the same for her.

her period is never a problem, she simply tells me to 'not bother seeing her till next thursday' as we 'cant have any fun anyhow'

she earns more than me, and has never once expected me to pay for anything out of turn. I buy the first round of drinks she buys the next.

shes swears she doesnt want kids or marriage till 35-40 years old (that gives us about 10-15 years more fun)

then again, shes has been an evil b1tch to me on many occasions, and ive shouted at her like no one else ive been mad at.

hmm, im getting on a bit now, better stop.

all im saying is, there is the perfect girl for you out there somewhere. DONT marry just because you got nothing better right now, marry cos you KNOW its the right thing.

[Enduro]

if she's good in bed and lets you play AH, you done good.

[Meatwad]

Originally posted by north
We are similar and different at the same time. But aren't trust and partnership the most important components of the relationship?  I mean we share the same values...

Happiness is also a big part of the marriage. If one or both parties are not happy, then things will degrade and get bad fast. Neither one of us was happy anymore, therefore we both wanted out and to go our separate ways