Someone on the board here, I can't recall who off the top of my head, said that if you see footage of someone dying, you should feel 'guilt'. He got pretty slippery when I asked why, and said I didn't have a conscience. Mkay.
The widow, btw, is from where I live (Eugene, OR). I'm both saddened for her loss and joyful that she found someone who brought her happiness. Grief is like a shadow, the bigger your happiness in life, the longer the shadow in death.